Is it normal that my friends never contact me

I dont have a huge circle of friends, but unless I contact them, they never contact me, when I have messaged them and arranged we meet up, say in a few days time for instance, unless i message them and remind them, to which I usually get an excuse why the can no longer meet, if I dont remind them then they just dont show, with no apology text nothing.
I'm not needy or clingy but I find this behaviour strange, same as if I text someone and they just never reply, but they can be seen on social media every day, ibfeel it's just a bit rude, and not a nice way to treat someone who is supposed to be your friend, is it me or are people just not nice anymore.

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Comments ( 14 )
  • RoseIsabella

    I'm sorry, sugar, but those people aren't your friends.

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    • Archierocks247

      I'm starting to feel this way this too 🙁🙁

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    • Grunewald

      I agree

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      • Archierocks247

        So do I delete their numbers? I've already come away from all social media, I'd literally have no friends left though apart from immediate family and work friends if I no longer kept in touch with them.

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        • RoseIsabella

          You don't have to delete their numbers, just know that they are not real friends, and don't agree to do them any favors.

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  • Cliche1234

    They're clearly not real friends. They're not interested to be friends with you. It's time to stop contacting them altogether since they never contact you first to begin with. If you kept on contacting them, you're just giving them ego boost and lower your self-worth in their eyes. Show them you're not the clingy type like you mentioned by not contacting them at all and start finding friends who sincerely appreciate you.

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  • SwickDinging

    They aren't your friends.

    Trust your instincts with people. You feel like they're being rude and not prioritising you because it's true.

    Stop texting these people and try and widen your social circle. I bet you don't hear from these "friends" for a long time without you being the one to put in the effort.

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  • dimwitted

    As you get older real friends dwindle away. One or two will stick it out.

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    • Archierocks247

      One or two did, and I've always considered them my best friends, but I was still the one making all the effort, I dont expect them to be in my pocket but i dont believe they dont get time to reply or even just acknowledge a text either, Ive got two ittle kids, and work too, and I make time to make the effort, they just dont do anything.

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  • SKDM007

    they are acquaintances, not friends

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    • Archierocks247

      I'm starting to believe this myself, which sadens me greatly 😥

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    If that is what you consider friends, you have some issues.

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  • ToffeeMe

    Im actually struggling with this too.. but don't make too much effort anymore, let them be. Find another friends, or unwind just by yourself. Sometimes life is more comfortable when you enjoy it alone and with onlythose who actually appreciate you.

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  • Archierocks247

    I've known these people for many years and grown up with most of them,I do find it upsetting that all those years clearly meant nothing to them, I mean how could they, when this is how I am treated, I'd do anything for all of them, I've always been there for them when they really needed someone. I was a shoulder to cry on, someone to let off steam to, I fed them, stopped all my plans for them, I just dont know what I've done wrong to any of them, I came off social media, and didnt contact any of them for like 6 months and not one of them noticed, I didnt get one call or text from any of them.

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