I see what you're saying, but if it's a creepy stalkerish person they are usually being blocked by someone who has most likely repeatedly blew them off, and gradually stopped talking to them, because of feelings of discomfort. Believe it, or not I've been ghosted before, and although it hurt my feelings I'm okay with it, because some people just happen to be poor communicators who aren't good with confrontation. I figure if I'm okay with the times someone has just quit communicating with me then I won't feel guilty if, and when I have to ghost another person. Honestly, I don't generally ghost people, and I do usually opt to have the uncomfortable conversation, but if someone makes me really uncomfortable then that's on them, and I just might have to ghost the person.
Yeah I understand, but I didn't even mean meeting up with them one last time to tell them why you're ending the friendship though, or even talking over the phone. I just meant sending them a text/email before ending it, and then blocking them, just so that they at least know it's over. Where as ghosting them doesn't even let them know it's a definitive ending, it's that lack of closure that's cruel I think.
Most people don't generally just block others out of nowhere. Although a lot of the people who do get blocked, or ghosted tend to be the types who lack insight, and are unaware of the things they do, and say to that turn others off. A lot of awkward people alienate themselves from others, because they don't know any better. I try to be fair, and communicate, but sometimes I just have to disengage completely.
I know most people wouldn't do that, but still some do. Ok but I still can't see any reason why someone shouldn't get a quick final message saying something like "I'm ending our friendship because of..... Don't try to reply to this, I've blocked you". That's the decent thing to do in that situation imo.
Have you ever had to deal with a super needy, and clingy stalker sort of person in your life? It's easier to tell a black widow spider not to bite you, especially because those are very shy, and docile spiders.
But if you block them after sending them that text/email then they won't have a chance to respond anyway. If they show up on your doorstep afterwards, acting like you didn't mean what you said in that text, then that's fair enough then to ghost them, they're deluded. But I wouldn't even consider that ghosting then since you did give them fair warning.
You're really trying my patience here! You completely ignored my question, and just went on with the same thing you've been saying all along, and I don't appreciate that!
I'm going to ask again. Have you ever had to deal with a super needy, and clingy stalker sort of person in your life? Please answer my question.
IIN that my friend thinks that blocking/ghosting should be illegal?
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I see what you're saying, but if it's a creepy stalkerish person they are usually being blocked by someone who has most likely repeatedly blew them off, and gradually stopped talking to them, because of feelings of discomfort. Believe it, or not I've been ghosted before, and although it hurt my feelings I'm okay with it, because some people just happen to be poor communicators who aren't good with confrontation. I figure if I'm okay with the times someone has just quit communicating with me then I won't feel guilty if, and when I have to ghost another person. Honestly, I don't generally ghost people, and I do usually opt to have the uncomfortable conversation, but if someone makes me really uncomfortable then that's on them, and I just might have to ghost the person.
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Yeah I understand, but I didn't even mean meeting up with them one last time to tell them why you're ending the friendship though, or even talking over the phone. I just meant sending them a text/email before ending it, and then blocking them, just so that they at least know it's over. Where as ghosting them doesn't even let them know it's a definitive ending, it's that lack of closure that's cruel I think.
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Most people don't generally just block others out of nowhere. Although a lot of the people who do get blocked, or ghosted tend to be the types who lack insight, and are unaware of the things they do, and say to that turn others off. A lot of awkward people alienate themselves from others, because they don't know any better. I try to be fair, and communicate, but sometimes I just have to disengage completely.
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I know most people wouldn't do that, but still some do. Ok but I still can't see any reason why someone shouldn't get a quick final message saying something like "I'm ending our friendship because of..... Don't try to reply to this, I've blocked you". That's the decent thing to do in that situation imo.
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Have you ever had to deal with a super needy, and clingy stalker sort of person in your life? It's easier to tell a black widow spider not to bite you, especially because those are very shy, and docile spiders.
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But if you block them after sending them that text/email then they won't have a chance to respond anyway. If they show up on your doorstep afterwards, acting like you didn't mean what you said in that text, then that's fair enough then to ghost them, they're deluded. But I wouldn't even consider that ghosting then since you did give them fair warning.
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You're really trying my patience here! You completely ignored my question, and just went on with the same thing you've been saying all along, and I don't appreciate that!
I'm going to ask again. Have you ever had to deal with a super needy, and clingy stalker sort of person in your life? Please answer my question.