It is an incredibly cruel thing to ghost someone. If you told them beforehand, even through a text, that you were gonna block them and stop responding to them then that'd be ok, but to let the other person not know is cruel, even if they deserve it.
Ok, fair enough. But even if someone deserves being treated like an asshole, that isn't going to solve anything. Ghosting them isn't going to teach them a lesson, because they won't even know why they're being ghosted in the first place. They're just gonna assume the person ghosting them is an asshole. Telling them why they're gonna be ignored would at least inform them of their wrongdoings. And they might just learn a lesson from that then, as opposed to just becoming more bitter.
I see what you're saying, but if it's a creepy stalkerish person they are usually being blocked by someone who has most likely repeatedly blew them off, and gradually stopped talking to them, because of feelings of discomfort. Believe it, or not I've been ghosted before, and although it hurt my feelings I'm okay with it, because some people just happen to be poor communicators who aren't good with confrontation. I figure if I'm okay with the times someone has just quit communicating with me then I won't feel guilty if, and when I have to ghost another person. Honestly, I don't generally ghost people, and I do usually opt to have the uncomfortable conversation, but if someone makes me really uncomfortable then that's on them, and I just might have to ghost the person.
Yeah I understand, but I didn't even mean meeting up with them one last time to tell them why you're ending the friendship though, or even talking over the phone. I just meant sending them a text/email before ending it, and then blocking them, just so that they at least know it's over. Where as ghosting them doesn't even let them know it's a definitive ending, it's that lack of closure that's cruel I think.
Most people don't generally just block others out of nowhere. Although a lot of the people who do get blocked, or ghosted tend to be the types who lack insight, and are unaware of the things they do, and say to that turn others off. A lot of awkward people alienate themselves from others, because they don't know any better. I try to be fair, and communicate, but sometimes I just have to disengage completely.
I know most people wouldn't do that, but still some do. Ok but I still can't see any reason why someone shouldn't get a quick final message saying something like "I'm ending our friendship because of..... Don't try to reply to this, I've blocked you". That's the decent thing to do in that situation imo.
Sometimes people aren't entitled to an explanation. As far as I'm concerned, ghosting is the consequence of being toxic, and clueless. If someone expects to be treated with respect, they should learn to give it to others. Now if the person was actually sweet to others, then they wouldn't deserve to be ghosted. XD
I disagree tbh, I think everyone's entitled to at least an explanation. Even if they're sentenced to death, they're at least entitled to know why. I can understand why you'd think otherwise, but I think that's based on feelings of revenge or vengeance tbh, rather than proper justice. If someone is clueless, then they literally wouldn't know that they've even done anything wrong anyway. So what's the point? They wouldn't learn anything, you wouldn't be teaching them a lesson. They'd just think you're the asshole for ghosting them.
IIN that my friend thinks that blocking/ghosting should be illegal?
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It is an incredibly cruel thing to ghost someone. If you told them beforehand, even through a text, that you were gonna block them and stop responding to them then that'd be ok, but to let the other person not know is cruel, even if they deserve it.
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I don't agree with your statement.
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Ok, fair enough. But even if someone deserves being treated like an asshole, that isn't going to solve anything. Ghosting them isn't going to teach them a lesson, because they won't even know why they're being ghosted in the first place. They're just gonna assume the person ghosting them is an asshole. Telling them why they're gonna be ignored would at least inform them of their wrongdoings. And they might just learn a lesson from that then, as opposed to just becoming more bitter.
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I see what you're saying, but if it's a creepy stalkerish person they are usually being blocked by someone who has most likely repeatedly blew them off, and gradually stopped talking to them, because of feelings of discomfort. Believe it, or not I've been ghosted before, and although it hurt my feelings I'm okay with it, because some people just happen to be poor communicators who aren't good with confrontation. I figure if I'm okay with the times someone has just quit communicating with me then I won't feel guilty if, and when I have to ghost another person. Honestly, I don't generally ghost people, and I do usually opt to have the uncomfortable conversation, but if someone makes me really uncomfortable then that's on them, and I just might have to ghost the person.
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Yeah I understand, but I didn't even mean meeting up with them one last time to tell them why you're ending the friendship though, or even talking over the phone. I just meant sending them a text/email before ending it, and then blocking them, just so that they at least know it's over. Where as ghosting them doesn't even let them know it's a definitive ending, it's that lack of closure that's cruel I think.
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Most people don't generally just block others out of nowhere. Although a lot of the people who do get blocked, or ghosted tend to be the types who lack insight, and are unaware of the things they do, and say to that turn others off. A lot of awkward people alienate themselves from others, because they don't know any better. I try to be fair, and communicate, but sometimes I just have to disengage completely.
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I know most people wouldn't do that, but still some do. Ok but I still can't see any reason why someone shouldn't get a quick final message saying something like "I'm ending our friendship because of..... Don't try to reply to this, I've blocked you". That's the decent thing to do in that situation imo.
Sometimes people aren't entitled to an explanation. As far as I'm concerned, ghosting is the consequence of being toxic, and clueless. If someone expects to be treated with respect, they should learn to give it to others. Now if the person was actually sweet to others, then they wouldn't deserve to be ghosted. XD
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I disagree tbh, I think everyone's entitled to at least an explanation. Even if they're sentenced to death, they're at least entitled to know why. I can understand why you'd think otherwise, but I think that's based on feelings of revenge or vengeance tbh, rather than proper justice. If someone is clueless, then they literally wouldn't know that they've even done anything wrong anyway. So what's the point? They wouldn't learn anything, you wouldn't be teaching them a lesson. They'd just think you're the asshole for ghosting them.
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