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What I wrote earlier was that I don't understand why people expect people to change. You shouldnt expect them to change to meet your needs. People with aspergers have a difficult time showing and understanding emotions. You friend will probably feel rejected for being who he is and will not understand why you rejected him out of nowhere. You shouldn't have to do whatever he says. Just hang out with him less.
I really tried to accept him for a long time. In fact, every other friend has abandoned him already in one way or another. Indeed, he never understands why people try to get their distance from him... and when I try to explain him, he gets mad at me. In fact, he gets mad at me all the time and he always says that I should stop hanging out with him (but I know he doesn't really mean it deep inside).
The thing is that we already in our mid 20s, and there are certain things that are expected from a person at this age. I don't want radical changes, I just want our friendship to be a relationship between 2 adults and not a relationship between a master and a slave or a child and a babysitter.
I tried not to respond to all his whims, but he always gets angry and acts like I explained above.
I don't know what else to tell you. It's impossible to give someone advice who wont listen. Maybe tell him first he doesn't have to agree with you but he needs to at least respectfully listen to your point of view. Friends don't always have to agree but they do need to listen.
IIN that my friend might have Asperger and I dont know what to do?
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My comments keep getting deleted today for some reason.
What I wrote earlier was that I don't understand why people expect people to change. You shouldnt expect them to change to meet your needs. People with aspergers have a difficult time showing and understanding emotions. You friend will probably feel rejected for being who he is and will not understand why you rejected him out of nowhere. You shouldn't have to do whatever he says. Just hang out with him less.
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I really tried to accept him for a long time. In fact, every other friend has abandoned him already in one way or another. Indeed, he never understands why people try to get their distance from him... and when I try to explain him, he gets mad at me. In fact, he gets mad at me all the time and he always says that I should stop hanging out with him (but I know he doesn't really mean it deep inside).
The thing is that we already in our mid 20s, and there are certain things that are expected from a person at this age. I don't want radical changes, I just want our friendship to be a relationship between 2 adults and not a relationship between a master and a slave or a child and a babysitter.
I tried not to respond to all his whims, but he always gets angry and acts like I explained above.
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I don't know what else to tell you. It's impossible to give someone advice who wont listen. Maybe tell him first he doesn't have to agree with you but he needs to at least respectfully listen to your point of view. Friends don't always have to agree but they do need to listen.