I have never understood why people begin a relationship, whether friendship or romantic, expecting the other person to change. I also do not comprehend why people change. People have cut me off before for not changing including an ex girlfriend for 4 years. People with Asperger's have a difficult time showing the emotions they do have because they are difficult to understand. He will probably feel rejected for being who he is and will not understand why you appear to reject him out of nowhere when nothing has changed. You don't have to do everything he says either. Maybe you should just hangout with him less. It is also quite immature of you to expect someone to change to meet your needs.
The world doesn't stop just because someone has asperger. I don't agree with wanting to change people either, but I believe that certain attitudes stop being acceptable at certain age. People expect others to be more responsible and less self-centered when they become adults. I guess the "essence" should remain the same, just certain attitudes should change.
Simply being too yourself and not being expressive is not something everyone grows out of. Some people are just like this. You are too self centered to realize this and sound extremely judgmental. Please do stop being his friend. You sound like an awful person and I don't think anyone should have a friend like you. I don't understand why you believe he is going to blossom into what you expect an ideal friend to be. That is not what you sign up for when you start a relationship. When you start a relationship you like that person for who they are. Not what you think they NEED to be. That is like befriending a kid with glasses and expecting him to not have glasses one day. He might just get blinder with age so you don't have a right expecting his eyes to just repair. They might for some and they might not for others.
IIN that my friend might have Asperger and I dont know what to do?
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I have never understood why people begin a relationship, whether friendship or romantic, expecting the other person to change. I also do not comprehend why people change. People have cut me off before for not changing including an ex girlfriend for 4 years. People with Asperger's have a difficult time showing the emotions they do have because they are difficult to understand. He will probably feel rejected for being who he is and will not understand why you appear to reject him out of nowhere when nothing has changed. You don't have to do everything he says either. Maybe you should just hangout with him less. It is also quite immature of you to expect someone to change to meet your needs.
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The world doesn't stop just because someone has asperger. I don't agree with wanting to change people either, but I believe that certain attitudes stop being acceptable at certain age. People expect others to be more responsible and less self-centered when they become adults. I guess the "essence" should remain the same, just certain attitudes should change.
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Simply being too yourself and not being expressive is not something everyone grows out of. Some people are just like this. You are too self centered to realize this and sound extremely judgmental. Please do stop being his friend. You sound like an awful person and I don't think anyone should have a friend like you. I don't understand why you believe he is going to blossom into what you expect an ideal friend to be. That is not what you sign up for when you start a relationship. When you start a relationship you like that person for who they are. Not what you think they NEED to be. That is like befriending a kid with glasses and expecting him to not have glasses one day. He might just get blinder with age so you don't have a right expecting his eyes to just repair. They might for some and they might not for others.