Hi. I do know how you feel because I have been both on the receiving end and the delivering end, its normal to feel this way. It sounds like your friend is definately going through some sort of issue. I wouldn't take it personally, despite the fact she has said she finds you annoying, this is probably her taking it out on your rather than anything you have actually done. She might just want to be alone and is pushing you away because she doesn't want to involve you. She could be feeling a bit down or stressed at the moment and it's typical to lash out at those who are closest to you, so in a funny way its flattering i guess she feels she can behave that way to you. However, it's not acceptable for you... as she is your friend and you care about her. If i were you, i wouldn't respond negatively towards her if she tries to antagonise you, try and be indifferent to it. In fact try and be indifferent in general.. if she doesn't want to talk about her problems with you there's nothing you can do and bugging her will probably make the situation worse. All you can do really is give her a wide girth until she realises she is treating you badly, which she will. Then you can be there for her if she wants to talk about her problems. I'd try and spend some time with some other people (not talk about her with them though that could lead to more problems) to give her some space and you some space as well, plus sometimes it's good to get away from a safe "BFF" and have a wider network, though i'm sure you do, i'm speculating. Hope this helps in some way, and this doesn't sound like a lecture, i'm just literally saying how i coped with it when it happened to me, i have no idea if this applies to you. Good luck and take care :)
Is it normal that my friend is becoming increasingly closed off?
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Hi. I do know how you feel because I have been both on the receiving end and the delivering end, its normal to feel this way. It sounds like your friend is definately going through some sort of issue. I wouldn't take it personally, despite the fact she has said she finds you annoying, this is probably her taking it out on your rather than anything you have actually done. She might just want to be alone and is pushing you away because she doesn't want to involve you. She could be feeling a bit down or stressed at the moment and it's typical to lash out at those who are closest to you, so in a funny way its flattering i guess she feels she can behave that way to you. However, it's not acceptable for you... as she is your friend and you care about her. If i were you, i wouldn't respond negatively towards her if she tries to antagonise you, try and be indifferent to it. In fact try and be indifferent in general.. if she doesn't want to talk about her problems with you there's nothing you can do and bugging her will probably make the situation worse. All you can do really is give her a wide girth until she realises she is treating you badly, which she will. Then you can be there for her if she wants to talk about her problems. I'd try and spend some time with some other people (not talk about her with them though that could lead to more problems) to give her some space and you some space as well, plus sometimes it's good to get away from a safe "BFF" and have a wider network, though i'm sure you do, i'm speculating. Hope this helps in some way, and this doesn't sound like a lecture, i'm just literally saying how i coped with it when it happened to me, i have no idea if this applies to you. Good luck and take care :)