Is it normal that my fiance&i barely have sex?

My fiance and I have been friends for 13 years. We've had a crush on each other for a very long time; when we were teenagers we almost had sex a couple of times.
Currently, we've been together for a year and a half (and living together for 1 year). The sex is ALWAYS magical for both of us. Unfortunately, we have sex once or twice a month. Three times if I get lucky. Once we even didn't have sex for 2 months in a row.
We are both very sexually active people. We are both very much in love. We both find each other sexy as hell. When he is searching for porn online, for instance, he searches for a woman who looks like me: he googles "red head, heavily tattooed, big boobs". And that is exactly me.
We both do drugs (not hardcore though, but we do) and we are both on a medication that kind of reduces one's sexual apetite. However, we've talked about it many times, that our sex life is very unhealthy and that we barely have sex and everytime we have this conversation, we decide to work on it and make it a point that we should have sex at least twice a week. We never end up committing to our decision.
Even when I think about it alone and decide that I will make a move at night, when the time comes I keep postponing until I fall asleep.
Please comment and give me your opinion, but let me clear some points out:
No, we haven't lost our "spark" or "chemistry"; it's still there.
Yes, I do think he is hot and he thinks I am very hot too.
No, we aren't too old. I am almost 30 and he is 32 years old.
Help.

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Comments ( 11 )
  • DannyKanes

    Just get naked and jump him.

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    • Read what I wrote!!

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      • DannyKanes

        Don't postpone, just do it.

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  • Avant-Garde

    Okay, I'll admit this may sound weird but watch Green Porno. The show doesn't turn me on but I find that Isabella Rosselini is very alluring. There are an overwhelming amount of people that say that show gives them the "weirdest boners ever".

    If that doesn't work; maybe you should try exploring each other fetishes or safely experiment with S&M.

    Good Luck!

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  • DonnieLighto

    Do NOT get married until you get this under control. Ask your doctors if you can switch to an AD such as Wellbutrin or Remeron which doesn't have the sexual side effects.

    Not dispensing medical advice, just mentioning what helped me out when the same thing happened.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Sit on his face.

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    • Dude! Get real, will ya?

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      • Terence_the_viking

        I'm serious that is what my wife does and it gets me in the mood. Instant boner cha-ching.

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  • lc1988

    I'm kind of at the same point but because of work schedules. He works 10pm-8am and I work 10 am-7or8 ish. I keep thinking "oh I'll wake up early to do him" but I always end up putting my alarm on snooze. It's ridiculous! We need to get our act together ha. Anyways, we just have sex on the weekend but a schedule isn't quite ideal. That's just what you might need to do though to get the ball rolling.

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    • NoraBaker

      There's such a beautiful short story by Italo Calvino about a couple working opposite shifts in "Difficult Loves". If you ever get a chance, check it out - at a bookstore or library. It's just a few pages long. It's the "adventures of two spouses" or something similar.

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    • Yeah we probably are tired most of the time, but it's not like our timing is an issue.

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