Okay, well it really comes down to your feelings, if you aren't happy with it then you need to confront him. If he doesn't stop then maybe this is an indication that he's getting something from this other than simple entertainment. Regardless, just talking to him if you're unhappy if the best route. If you are happy with him doing it, then it really doesn't matter if it's normal.
I honestly believe he doesn't think it's cheating. Which it isn't I guess, technically. But it feels icky to me.I thought I'd be ok with it, I've let it slide for a couple months. But the more I think about it, I don't like that he's sexting incredibly nasty stuff with random guys even if it's under a "woman profile" and doesn't mean anything to him. I've said the following to him several times when bringing up the issue: 1) That it's deceitful to be someone you're not 2) That even if it's just fantasy he's exchanging fantasies with strangers; it's not cheating, but damn close. 3) that I thought this was a thing of the past, (he used to do this when he was single too) and now that it's "back" it's disruptive 4) That I trust he's a good person and means well but that some of his boundaries are WAY past what I'm comfortable with.
He is obviously annoyed when I talk about it, says I should trust that he wouldn't do anything stupid, that he won't cheat and that it's just some fun. He wishes I wouldn't make such a big deal out of it. I love this guy a lot, but how the hell can I get through to him? In a fit of rage he said "fine I'll delete it all, make you happy?" but I don't want him to do it out of anger!
Honestly, if he can see how much he's bothering you with this and isn't even bothered beyond the irritation of you constantly asking... perhaps you should consider what you can do: break up, or get over it.
Honestly, now you've explained it I don't think it's as big a deal as I may have made it sound, but I stand by the "do what makes you happy" philosophy.
Is it normal that my fiancé sexts as a woman?
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Okay, well it really comes down to your feelings, if you aren't happy with it then you need to confront him. If he doesn't stop then maybe this is an indication that he's getting something from this other than simple entertainment. Regardless, just talking to him if you're unhappy if the best route. If you are happy with him doing it, then it really doesn't matter if it's normal.
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I honestly believe he doesn't think it's cheating. Which it isn't I guess, technically. But it feels icky to me.I thought I'd be ok with it, I've let it slide for a couple months. But the more I think about it, I don't like that he's sexting incredibly nasty stuff with random guys even if it's under a "woman profile" and doesn't mean anything to him. I've said the following to him several times when bringing up the issue: 1) That it's deceitful to be someone you're not 2) That even if it's just fantasy he's exchanging fantasies with strangers; it's not cheating, but damn close. 3) that I thought this was a thing of the past, (he used to do this when he was single too) and now that it's "back" it's disruptive 4) That I trust he's a good person and means well but that some of his boundaries are WAY past what I'm comfortable with.
He is obviously annoyed when I talk about it, says I should trust that he wouldn't do anything stupid, that he won't cheat and that it's just some fun. He wishes I wouldn't make such a big deal out of it. I love this guy a lot, but how the hell can I get through to him? In a fit of rage he said "fine I'll delete it all, make you happy?" but I don't want him to do it out of anger!
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Honestly, if he can see how much he's bothering you with this and isn't even bothered beyond the irritation of you constantly asking... perhaps you should consider what you can do: break up, or get over it.
Honestly, now you've explained it I don't think it's as big a deal as I may have made it sound, but I stand by the "do what makes you happy" philosophy.