Is it normal that my family are so horrible to me ?

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My mother and twin sister and older sister are really mean to me. They always have been. My mother taught them how to be and that sounds really messed up but i think she does because she has a mental illness and although we tried to get help when we were kids no one helped us. My problem is that i'm in my 30s and still my sisters treat me like shit, there is no talking to my dad because he has moved on and just criticizes all of us. Saying thats just the way it is. I dont treat them badly but i dont want to do this forever with them, feeling unworthy and broken. I want to break the cycle, how do i?

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago | pl

    If your mother taught your two sisters how to be mean, did she single you out of the lesson?

    Do you not realize that you are better then them? If they cannot respect you, they do not deserve your attention. Cut them out.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    12 years ago | pl

    I moved to a different state, I still see and miss my family but I am more independent now and their actions do not affect me as much. So I am more happy now and I don't worry so much about all of them changing because I can't change them, I can only change myself. Also, since they are all around each other, then it might be impossible for them to change because they are the same in behavior with each other, and you have to change as an individual before you can change as a whole. Also, you have to tell them that treating you badly isn't normal! You have to say what you feel even if it might start drama, Stand up for yourself! Tell them, I don't understand how you all are so selfish and stupid and insecure about yourself that you feel the need to treat me this way when all I do is love and care about you. They have the problem and you don't and someone has to let them know about it even if it might be hard and hurt their feelings. I tell my mom and my sister some things that they don't like to hear about themselves, but they always think about it and sometimes change, and its for the better. They might rebel at first but if you have good insight about it then they will begin to realize their behaviors and 'want' to change 'themselves'

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Have a serious conversation where you tell them how you feel.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    He never said anything about living with them.

    Anyway. Stand up for yourself the next time they start badgering you. Tell them they've crossed a line and make them realize that when they address you it's going to be on your terms.

    Most people at heart are cowards. They pick on others simply because they can and not out of some virtuous sense of indignation. Therefore, even a small amount of courage is enough to drive these dogs away.

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  • RaNdOmPoPcOrN33467890754213456
    11 years ago | pl

    I ATE MY MOM O.o

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  • trololol15
    12 years ago | pl

    I need a dump/

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  • timebobbu
    12 years ago | pl

    ure 30 and you said 'my family are' learn english idiot

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