Yeah, exes do this all the time. Personally, I wouldn't respond, but it's up to you.
Ask yourself: Do I really want to dig up the past? Stir up old feelings? Do I really want to fall back on nostalgia, when I'm moving forward with someone new and awesome?
Because that's what's going to happen. She's going to bring up the past a lot and try to rekindle what you two once had, which was something more than friendship. If you're confused now, you're going to become more confused later.
However, if you really want to talk to her and see how things go, set crystal clear boundaries for yourself and know when to walk away if she over steps them. Also, look inside yourself. Do you still have feelings for her? If she were to try anything (i.e. try to kiss you, etc), would you give in?
Good question. I have asked myself this several times since she messaged me. I mean, if she tried to kiss me (which wouldnt happen, but if) I mean.. I don't think I can do such a thing because of the person I am dating right now. I love her, but, to be completely honest, I would want to.
If you want to kiss her, then it's best to keep your distance to not hurt the person you're currently dating; unless you feel giving up what you currently have to pursue your ex is worth it.
I don't but only because I now this person doesn't have those type of feelings anymore. It's really complicated because I am living together with someone but ever since I got this message, I cant get her out of my head. But even if I would persue this, I'm not even sure that's what my ex wants, maybe she just wants to say sorry and leave it at that. I am not sure that's worth risking my relationship for. There would be a change if she actually wanted me back, but she doesn't, I think. Still, I feel pretty bad for saying that if she did want to, I would want to as well. It makes me feel a bit confused about where I stand with my current relationship as well.
Basically, you're not over your ex and the person you're currently dating is just a rebound that got serious.
It's sad that the girl you're currently with is a place holder until the girl you want, someone who broke your heart once, decides to snap her fingers and call you back.
IIN That my ex texted me this after four years?
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Yeah, exes do this all the time. Personally, I wouldn't respond, but it's up to you.
Ask yourself: Do I really want to dig up the past? Stir up old feelings? Do I really want to fall back on nostalgia, when I'm moving forward with someone new and awesome?
Because that's what's going to happen. She's going to bring up the past a lot and try to rekindle what you two once had, which was something more than friendship. If you're confused now, you're going to become more confused later.
However, if you really want to talk to her and see how things go, set crystal clear boundaries for yourself and know when to walk away if she over steps them. Also, look inside yourself. Do you still have feelings for her? If she were to try anything (i.e. try to kiss you, etc), would you give in?
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Good question. I have asked myself this several times since she messaged me. I mean, if she tried to kiss me (which wouldnt happen, but if) I mean.. I don't think I can do such a thing because of the person I am dating right now. I love her, but, to be completely honest, I would want to.
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If you want to kiss her, then it's best to keep your distance to not hurt the person you're currently dating; unless you feel giving up what you currently have to pursue your ex is worth it.
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I don't but only because I now this person doesn't have those type of feelings anymore. It's really complicated because I am living together with someone but ever since I got this message, I cant get her out of my head. But even if I would persue this, I'm not even sure that's what my ex wants, maybe she just wants to say sorry and leave it at that. I am not sure that's worth risking my relationship for. There would be a change if she actually wanted me back, but she doesn't, I think. Still, I feel pretty bad for saying that if she did want to, I would want to as well. It makes me feel a bit confused about where I stand with my current relationship as well.
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Basically, you're not over your ex and the person you're currently dating is just a rebound that got serious.
It's sad that the girl you're currently with is a place holder until the girl you want, someone who broke your heart once, decides to snap her fingers and call you back.