This is a difficult situation, because the same institution that caused his trauma also instills an aversion to seeking help...I mean the military pounds certain things into your head...pride, self sufficiency, a denial of weakness, the suppression of your breaking point, and to be honest, this type of attitude serves it's purpose in combat, but it can be incredibly damaging later.
It must be so hard for him to admit that he needs help.
I'm no doctor, but if I was in your shoes, I would reach out to a local veterans group. I would find someone who has been through something similar and might be willing to help talk to your dad...maybe one on one; someone who's been in the same shoes; theres a camaraderie in shared experiences and traumas.
I think he might be more open to hearing from someone who's been through something similar, as opposed to being forced to see a doctor and treated as if he has an illness.
I feel for you; it can be so hearbreaking to deal with a family member who has a mental illness when they don't want help. I think you should do whatever you can, but if you can't do anything, you also need to come to terms with that, and accept the fact that you can't fix everything. If you've done all you can, you shouldn't feel guilty.
IIN that my dad won't listen to me when it comes to him hoarding
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This is a difficult situation, because the same institution that caused his trauma also instills an aversion to seeking help...I mean the military pounds certain things into your head...pride, self sufficiency, a denial of weakness, the suppression of your breaking point, and to be honest, this type of attitude serves it's purpose in combat, but it can be incredibly damaging later.
It must be so hard for him to admit that he needs help.
I'm no doctor, but if I was in your shoes, I would reach out to a local veterans group. I would find someone who has been through something similar and might be willing to help talk to your dad...maybe one on one; someone who's been in the same shoes; theres a camaraderie in shared experiences and traumas.
I think he might be more open to hearing from someone who's been through something similar, as opposed to being forced to see a doctor and treated as if he has an illness.
I feel for you; it can be so hearbreaking to deal with a family member who has a mental illness when they don't want help. I think you should do whatever you can, but if you can't do anything, you also need to come to terms with that, and accept the fact that you can't fix everything. If you've done all you can, you shouldn't feel guilty.