"It seems almost definite to me that you have been sexually abused in the past..."
What the heck? She explicitly said in her post that she could NEVER remember being touched inappropriately by her father. Your assertion seems pretty paranoid and baseless.
It seems to me that her father might be on some level sexually attracted to her but that he doesn't want to hurt their father, daughter relationship. He can't help the feelings he has. He probably struggles with them and he certainly didn't ask to have them. He just can't act on them. She should gently let him know that it makes her feel uncomfortable when he makes comments about her body. He might get mad but if he loves her he'll get over it. There's a lot of long term value in parental relationships, certainly financially if nothing else, and that should be considered.
It's not a baseless assertion and I'm not paranoid: re-read her paragraphs which being "I've been plagued" and "I had a dream" respectively.
You're very ignorant if you don't know that many people who are sexually abused in childhood don't remember it until some other incident triggers off uncomfortable feelings later in life.
There have been cases of weird shrinks & others instilling "false memories" of sexual abuse but I've never heard of a case where someone mistakenly remembered such incidents without prompting.
He IS in fact acting on his feelings with his comments: if he had any sesnsitivity he would realise it's making her uncomfortable and would stop doing it, he's on a power trip.
I also comment that it's not uncommon for abusers and abusers to also love each other, that doesn't mean it isn't abuse
IIN that my dad makes comments about my body & makes me uncomfortable?
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"It seems almost definite to me that you have been sexually abused in the past..."
What the heck? She explicitly said in her post that she could NEVER remember being touched inappropriately by her father. Your assertion seems pretty paranoid and baseless.
It seems to me that her father might be on some level sexually attracted to her but that he doesn't want to hurt their father, daughter relationship. He can't help the feelings he has. He probably struggles with them and he certainly didn't ask to have them. He just can't act on them. She should gently let him know that it makes her feel uncomfortable when he makes comments about her body. He might get mad but if he loves her he'll get over it. There's a lot of long term value in parental relationships, certainly financially if nothing else, and that should be considered.
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It's not a baseless assertion and I'm not paranoid: re-read her paragraphs which being "I've been plagued" and "I had a dream" respectively.
You're very ignorant if you don't know that many people who are sexually abused in childhood don't remember it until some other incident triggers off uncomfortable feelings later in life.
There have been cases of weird shrinks & others instilling "false memories" of sexual abuse but I've never heard of a case where someone mistakenly remembered such incidents without prompting.
He IS in fact acting on his feelings with his comments: if he had any sesnsitivity he would realise it's making her uncomfortable and would stop doing it, he's on a power trip.
I also comment that it's not uncommon for abusers and abusers to also love each other, that doesn't mean it isn't abuse