Man, I don't believe none of the posters here has mentioned the obvious. I thought this should be blindingly obvious to everyone.
Now, this guy has gone to see a shrink, what does that tell you? If he abruptly became distant and is now depressed, doesn't that tell you something? Something has happened to him, something so bad he doesn't want to talk about it. One possibility; he just lost a loved one and he just doesn't know how to handle it. Possibility two; he was raped and he was so ashamed of it that he doesn't know how to open up.
OK, I hope it's not that severe, but you know what I mean. Something very traumatic has happened to him and this has completely and emotionally shut him down.
WOMAN, LISTEN TO ME. The more he pushes you away, the more you have to stick by your man. You want him to declare his undying love for you? You want him to go down on one knee and ask you to spend the rest of your life with him? Then go earn it! He's chucked you purely out of shame for himself, whatever it is that happened to him. If you walk out on him, you've condemned him to a long period of depression. That's just the way men are, when they feel weak and vulnerable, they shut down emotionally and push everyone away. This is when he needs you the most.
I know long-distance relationships are hard, but at the very least you have to call him occasionally. You don't have to try and dig into his problems and find out, just engage in small chat a few minutes a day every day and show him and you think about him. Be patient and one day he will open up.
Is it normal that my boyfriend wont 'open up' to me?
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Man, I don't believe none of the posters here has mentioned the obvious. I thought this should be blindingly obvious to everyone.
Now, this guy has gone to see a shrink, what does that tell you? If he abruptly became distant and is now depressed, doesn't that tell you something? Something has happened to him, something so bad he doesn't want to talk about it. One possibility; he just lost a loved one and he just doesn't know how to handle it. Possibility two; he was raped and he was so ashamed of it that he doesn't know how to open up.
OK, I hope it's not that severe, but you know what I mean. Something very traumatic has happened to him and this has completely and emotionally shut him down.
WOMAN, LISTEN TO ME. The more he pushes you away, the more you have to stick by your man. You want him to declare his undying love for you? You want him to go down on one knee and ask you to spend the rest of your life with him? Then go earn it! He's chucked you purely out of shame for himself, whatever it is that happened to him. If you walk out on him, you've condemned him to a long period of depression. That's just the way men are, when they feel weak and vulnerable, they shut down emotionally and push everyone away. This is when he needs you the most.
I know long-distance relationships are hard, but at the very least you have to call him occasionally. You don't have to try and dig into his problems and find out, just engage in small chat a few minutes a day every day and show him and you think about him. Be patient and one day he will open up.
HOW CAN YOU NOT SEE IT?