You should ask him what makes him so uncomfortable about socializing with your friends and family. You should also remind him that trying to manipulate you -or himself- into thinking that you're the reason he's not going doesn't help either of you.
You could try inviting your friends and family to hang out one person at a time, over and over, doing something he likes to do. If he's willing to hang out like that, then it is an overwhelming feeling he experiences when invited to social gatherings. Once he gets to know everyone more closely, though, he might feel okay with maybe sometimes going with you. I don't see him becoming comfortable with it, however, as sometimes social events just aren't a person's thing.
I know a lot of people assume that you can't just be antisocial, but some people just are. Don't ask too many social people to understand an antisocial person for you, they won't know what they're talking about. You'll have to figure him out the best way you can, and taking advice from the wrong people will cause more confusion.
First you should figure him out, then you can decide if he's antisocial or just a jerk.
IIN that my boyfriend will never come to any social event with me?
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You should ask him what makes him so uncomfortable about socializing with your friends and family. You should also remind him that trying to manipulate you -or himself- into thinking that you're the reason he's not going doesn't help either of you.
You could try inviting your friends and family to hang out one person at a time, over and over, doing something he likes to do. If he's willing to hang out like that, then it is an overwhelming feeling he experiences when invited to social gatherings. Once he gets to know everyone more closely, though, he might feel okay with maybe sometimes going with you. I don't see him becoming comfortable with it, however, as sometimes social events just aren't a person's thing.
I know a lot of people assume that you can't just be antisocial, but some people just are. Don't ask too many social people to understand an antisocial person for you, they won't know what they're talking about. You'll have to figure him out the best way you can, and taking advice from the wrong people will cause more confusion.
First you should figure him out, then you can decide if he's antisocial or just a jerk.