Either stop asking him and go by yourself or end it: you know the saying: If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got.
You can't change him and he's a pain in the arse with these games, why don't you stop playing the other part in them?
It doesn't sound as if he knows or cares why he behaves like this, so I'd stop banging my head on that particular brick wall if I were you. What does he say when you ask him why?
Have you tried the old non-judgmental approach? IE: When you ............ I feel ............. and I would prefer it if you ............. and then sit back and see how he responds. Works sometimes, but no guarantees, I'm sorry to say, and more likely to give you positive results than either keeping silent or criticising his behavior (you can do the latter in your head!)
IIN that my boyfriend will never come to any social event with me?
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Either stop asking him and go by yourself or end it: you know the saying: If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got.
You can't change him and he's a pain in the arse with these games, why don't you stop playing the other part in them?
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I like your logic, you are right.
It's only that sometimes I want to understand why he behaves like this.
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It doesn't sound as if he knows or cares why he behaves like this, so I'd stop banging my head on that particular brick wall if I were you. What does he say when you ask him why?
Have you tried the old non-judgmental approach? IE: When you ............ I feel ............. and I would prefer it if you ............. and then sit back and see how he responds. Works sometimes, but no guarantees, I'm sorry to say, and more likely to give you positive results than either keeping silent or criticising his behavior (you can do the latter in your head!)