Is it normal that my boyfriend watches porn after we have sex?

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I've tried talking to him about this but he says its nothing.
We have an open relationship but when it comes to asking him why he watches porn after we have sex, he compleatly avoids it saying, its just "nothing"
It makes me feel that maybe I'm not fulfilling his needs... I've tried asking him what I can do different and he says "nothing"
I'm sick of it!
So if I can get its normal that he watches porn after we have sex, then i can stop stressing!
So help me out. Is this normal!

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    I don't have a problem with porn in relationships, me and my girlfriend both watch it on our own when we can't be together. BUT I think him watching it right after sex instead of sharing an intimate moment is VERY disrespectful to you. What image could it give you except that you're somehow not enough sexually.

    you can try to explain how it makes you feel, but to me he sounds self-centered and unconcerned with your feelings so I say leave him.

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  • donotmockme
    9 years ago

    I don't even know what to say as I find this more abnormal than "open relationships".

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  • doodledoo
    9 years ago

    Omg no! How rude! You are supposed to be enjoying this moment together and he's too busy looking at other women! Wow! Dump him!

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    Porn usually isn't sinister or anything to worry about. Masturbating and watching porn really is nothing. People have a right to a private sex life, and porn is part of that.

    At the same time, he should respect your feelings enough to openly talk about this. I'm convinced you're worried about nothing but his reluctance to communicate, even if just to explain why this is nothing to worry about, is a problem.

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  • SilencedNephilim
    9 years ago

    define "We have an open relationship "

    He does not seem like a committed boyfriend if he has to look at someone else naked.

    He most likely wants to look at other women so he can beat off to women he knows he can't have.

    I hope he is not settling for you...

    If that is the case he might be the type of guy that would have infidelity.

    But I do not want to assume.

    The fact that you try communicating, and the fact that you are still with him is concerning.

    Be careful missy.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      Watching porn has absolutely nothing to do with someones commitment to a relationship :/

      Avoiding discussion is more of an issue than watching porn.

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      • SilencedNephilim
        9 years ago

        well porn and avoiding discussions together looks very bad.

        You are correct porn has little to do with commitment, however avoiding conversations and looking at other women directly after sex is not only disrespectful; it could be that he is watching another woman have sex to fulfill his "needs".

        This could result in him secretly getting his needs elsewhere if he would not respect your presence and watch it in front of your face.

        for example, if I flirted with another woman in the presence of my girlfriend it would show to her that I do not respect our relationship, and or not love her.

        Same applies to porn.

        He is watching another woman unclothed in front of you right after sex.

        This is not something that a respectful man would do.

        If you are fine with him watching porn then that's up to both of you, but right after sex should be cuddle time and bonding.

        I think porn is a distraction from enjoying the person who you are with.

        So it is my choice to bond deeply with my lover after sex.

        It seems he does not care about the relationship, which could lead to infidelity if he blatantly looks at porn after sex.

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        • charli.m
          9 years ago

          I'm not the OP.

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          • SilencedNephilim
            9 years ago

            Oh, well I apologize.

            It was a heartfelt response though xD

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  • Stryk3istrukuout
    7 years ago

    He could just have a porn addiction. Doesn't necessarily mean that you did something wrong. To me, as a guy, it sounds like he needs space but doesn't know how to ask for it. Porn can be a medium between intimacy and sexuality for someone in that it is a safe place. I think you should not try so hard to fulfill or please him. Don't put pressure on him and just be with him in a way that always let's him know he can be comfortable around you. Some guys like myself have a hard time opening up and need it to feel safe. It's hard to give much more feedback without more details. This is all assuming that when you say open relationship you mean you have open communication and not "we are in an open relationship".

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  • delling
    7 years ago

    That's pretty disrespectful. Also, is he not getting off during sex? If he gets off and then instantly starts watching porn, that seems like a pretty serious level of addiction.

    I have no problem with people watching porn in relationships, but it should be a supplement or occasional substitute, not a higher priority.

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  • fag0la
    9 years ago

    He obviously wants more from you, he isn't satisfied.

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  • MaxCapacity2121
    9 years ago

    If you're committed to one another then i think thats bull shit. I think guys should stop that non sense after being committed to someone.. if hes watching porn after sex..dump his ass. Hes obviously more interested in nasty whores.

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  • TheManagement
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    9 years ago

    Watch Don Jon: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2229499/

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    Nice.

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