Echoing some of the positive comments: Leave him. Reading this post and the subsequent comments has made me really angry, because this issue has nothing to do with chivalry or feminism; it's basic self respect, regardless of your gender. Who has eroded your self esteem to the point in which you no longer value yourself? You've given your "boyfriend" the ability to dominate you. No friend would willingly treat another friend so badly unless there was an ulterior motive. In this case, your submission to his notional superiority, massages his over inflated ego, making him feel great at your expense. You must never allow this to happen again. Leave this monster now - he's feeding off your misery. Tell him it's over. Don't answer his calls, texts, letters. Don't answer the door to him. Don't allow him a route into your life through any mutual friends. He may seem to undergo a miraculous change of character, by promising never to behave like this again. He will. He is controlling and he will continue to find other ways of controlling you because, you've shown him a fatal weakness; you have an overwhelming need to feel liked and wanted. You've allowed him to victimise you. He willingly degraded you in front of friends and family. Please, leave him in your past. Learn a valuable lesson while you heal: You must love and respect yourself before you can expect anybody else to. I do wish you every success.
IIN that my boyfriend wants me to pay for things he wants to do?
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Echoing some of the positive comments: Leave him. Reading this post and the subsequent comments has made me really angry, because this issue has nothing to do with chivalry or feminism; it's basic self respect, regardless of your gender. Who has eroded your self esteem to the point in which you no longer value yourself? You've given your "boyfriend" the ability to dominate you. No friend would willingly treat another friend so badly unless there was an ulterior motive. In this case, your submission to his notional superiority, massages his over inflated ego, making him feel great at your expense. You must never allow this to happen again. Leave this monster now - he's feeding off your misery. Tell him it's over. Don't answer his calls, texts, letters. Don't answer the door to him. Don't allow him a route into your life through any mutual friends. He may seem to undergo a miraculous change of character, by promising never to behave like this again. He will. He is controlling and he will continue to find other ways of controlling you because, you've shown him a fatal weakness; you have an overwhelming need to feel liked and wanted. You've allowed him to victimise you. He willingly degraded you in front of friends and family. Please, leave him in your past. Learn a valuable lesson while you heal: You must love and respect yourself before you can expect anybody else to. I do wish you every success.