Your boyfriend obviously has a very high libido. Although this number does seem quite large, I don't know if there is such a thing as excessive masturbation.
The real question is, why is he masturbating *instead* of having sex with you. I can think of only two explanations: either he enjoys his hand more than he does you, or you aren't interested in sex as frequently as he is. Either way, this can make you feel inadequate.
But, I think this can be solved with the aid of communication. He may have difficulty telling you if you are doing something wrong, so you need to be proactive on this front. Tell him you want to do things to him that feel much better than his hand, but he needs to help. Learn some sexual techniques. Strengthen your PC muscles. If you learn the fine art of--how shall I put this without getting banned--fellatio to completion, I can't see how he can possibly enjoy masturbation more than that. At the same time, he may need to learn techniques to get you more excited, more aroused.
Don't criticize him for masturbating, but tell him you want to be involved. Try different things. Ask him how you can help out. Have him show you what he likes done, how you should use your hand.
Bear in mind that this can be a slow process--it takes a fair amount of time for most women to learn new techniques. So, you shouldn't feel inadequate or frustrated. Just be patient, and with effort, things should improve over time.
Is it normal that my boyfriend wanks several times a day?
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Your boyfriend obviously has a very high libido. Although this number does seem quite large, I don't know if there is such a thing as excessive masturbation.
The real question is, why is he masturbating *instead* of having sex with you. I can think of only two explanations: either he enjoys his hand more than he does you, or you aren't interested in sex as frequently as he is. Either way, this can make you feel inadequate.
But, I think this can be solved with the aid of communication. He may have difficulty telling you if you are doing something wrong, so you need to be proactive on this front. Tell him you want to do things to him that feel much better than his hand, but he needs to help. Learn some sexual techniques. Strengthen your PC muscles. If you learn the fine art of--how shall I put this without getting banned--fellatio to completion, I can't see how he can possibly enjoy masturbation more than that. At the same time, he may need to learn techniques to get you more excited, more aroused.
Don't criticize him for masturbating, but tell him you want to be involved. Try different things. Ask him how you can help out. Have him show you what he likes done, how you should use your hand.
Bear in mind that this can be a slow process--it takes a fair amount of time for most women to learn new techniques. So, you shouldn't feel inadequate or frustrated. Just be patient, and with effort, things should improve over time.