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My boyfriend seems to masturbate excessively and I feel that it detracts from our time together. He feels the need to do it many times a day, even before we actually have sex. He doesnt think it's a problem but I feel like i'm not enough for him. Is it normal to feel this way and to think that 5, 6 maybe 7 times a day is too much?
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He can work doing what he loves!
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Your boyfriend obviously has a very high libido. Although this number does seem quite large, I don't know if there is such a thing as excessive masturbation.
The real question is, why is he masturbating *instead* of having sex with you. I can think of only two explanations: either he enjoys his hand more than he does you, or you aren't interested in sex as frequently as he is. Either way, this can make you feel inadequate.
But, I think this can be solved with the aid of communication. He may have difficulty telling you if you are doing something wrong, so you need to be proactive on this front. Tell him you want to do things to him that feel much better than his hand, but he needs to help. Learn some sexual techniques. Strengthen your PC muscles. If you learn the fine art of--how shall I put this without getting banned--fellatio to completion, I can't see how he can possibly enjoy masturbation more than that. At the same time, he may need to learn techniques to get you more excited, more aroused.
Don't criticize him for masturbating, but tell him you want to be involved. Try different things. Ask him how you can help out. Have him show you what he likes done, how you should use your hand.
Bear in mind that this can be a slow process--it takes a fair amount of time for most women to learn new techniques. So, you shouldn't feel inadequate or frustrated. Just be patient, and with effort, things should improve over time.
Well, I wouldn't worry about it. I find it sweet that he isn't shy about masturbating in front of you and that you feel comfortable talking about it with him. My take on it is that he is so stimulated being with you that you keep him in a constant state of arousal. Do you want to have sex 7 times a day? My guess is you would get sore, so he takes care of all the excess energy but the quality love making he saves for being with you. You must be one amazing girl. He is lucky to be with you.
You should offer a helping hand from time to time. Or give him head when he needs it, if men don't get a release they tend to start going on a killing spree and then everyone dies.
unless you want to have sex with him 5 to 7 times a day leave him alone it is none of your business
My ex boyfriend masturbates at least four times a day and when we were together we had intercourse at least 3 times a day as well as him masturbating. We was together 4 yrs ... I am resting for a bit now.
I dont see people get so upset their partner touches themselves. I mean what if they are horny and not their? What do you think they are going to do? It does not mean they are less attracted to you if they choose to touch themselves.
(im male)
i can understand where ur cumming from as a girl. it is fine tho- i do it about 5 times a day. jst try to get involved lick him, suck him etc
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Yup, I've done this as well in some relationships. I dunno, some girls happen to awake a higher sex drive level in me. And they can have sex only so many time without hurting.
Only 3 holes and they get sore pretty quickly.
I would guess he's just insatiable and not finding what he needs or rather you 2 just can't find the time. It works better when 2 schedules don't have to meet =\ but on a more positive note, some men do it pre sex so they can last longer afterwards. If that is the case he's doing it for you :P think about that ;)
Well honestly I don't think he is entirely normal but what makes you think you're not good enough for him? Surely its the opposite and you are too good for him, talk to him, find the reason to why he... and tell him how you feel about him doing this rather than being with you.
Get involved in a sport (tennis bicycling, etc) that you can do together. It's physical, not based on sex, and may calm his raging labido. Then, take a shower together and start the whole sex deal then......together
No, it's not normal. Not according to health standards, at least. And, if he continues to do this, he will only be able to masturbate with his own hand(Then again, that might actually be good!). It could be an unhealthy obsession as well. But this is just what I think. If he is capable of doing this then I guess that's him. It all depends on what's right for him, I suppose.
You must not be sucking his cock enough. You gotta suck all the cum out of it.
It's normal, he's a guy - guys do that.
If you masturbate before sex and you're a guy, it takes longer to climax. So maybe that is one reason why he does it.
That might be a little excessive. I masturbate earlier in the day even when my fiance and I are going to have sex, but not 5,6,7 times. Sometimes the mood just strikes and if she's not around I take care of it myself but I wouldn't do it if I had the option of being with her instead.
I have a friend that told me he really enjoyed cumming several times a day and would rather masterbate several times a day then have sex with his girl friend because it was just to much work. He said if he had it his way he would love to just stick it in and cum.
How is your boyfriend as a lover. If he is a lazy, selfish SOB then you have your answer.
well id ont think this normal but for him it may be if he has been masturbating for a long time then he will have to do it a lot cuz thats what his is used to.
I would think it depends on his age. Men in their 20's can usually do it many times per day but 6 or 7 per day seems high no matter the age. When I was in my twenties I masturbated about 4 times per day but I was single. It is not normal but as long as he's faithful to you I wouldn't worry about it
It's not normal unfortunately, but it has nothing to do with you. He has a problem and if he doesn't see a sex therapist he will lose you and not be able to have a stable intimate relationship. A friend of mine went through the same thing with her husband. Now they are divorced.