It seems as though your own ideas of romance just need to be taken down a notch, or two. If you can talk for hours, laugh, and be comfortable together, why do you want him to be overbearingly sweet?
You come across as wanting to be "romantic", but all I hear is you wanting to be "worshipped" by this guy for all of the efforts you put in.
I would say to enjoy what you have and notice the little things he might do that you have overlooked in the past. Everything else in your relationship seems to be fine, but if you're looking for a way out and lack of romance is just an excuse, then leave him for someone you find more suitable because it may be that he deserves someone better as well.
Wow, we are in a long distance relationship and have been for a LONG time, I feel like things are getting stale. I mean, is it really horrible of me want him to say Happy Valentines Day? I love him, and I'm not leaving him ever. As I said in my story I'm looking for ways to deal with it, and its definitely not an excuse. We have laugh together and such, but I feel like a bestfriend who has sex with him most of the time. He says he loves me, but he says he can't make love to me. I'm just confused and wish there was a way to cope with his unromantic views.
Umm... do you think that since you are in a long distance relationship that maybe he could be cheating on you? Maybe his lack of romance is a way of emotional detachment, the reason he can't "make love" to you. I hope he is not cheating on you, but I just had to say what came to my mind when I read your story.
lol No, he isn't cheating. He talks to me every waking hour of the day and most of the night. Also I've known him forever, he is a honest decent guy. But thanks for commenting!
If he has explained this to you and you are both still doing well, regardless of distance, the best thing i can suggest is to lower your romantic expectations and use that energy on something more productive.
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It seems as though your own ideas of romance just need to be taken down a notch, or two. If you can talk for hours, laugh, and be comfortable together, why do you want him to be overbearingly sweet?
You come across as wanting to be "romantic", but all I hear is you wanting to be "worshipped" by this guy for all of the efforts you put in.
I would say to enjoy what you have and notice the little things he might do that you have overlooked in the past. Everything else in your relationship seems to be fine, but if you're looking for a way out and lack of romance is just an excuse, then leave him for someone you find more suitable because it may be that he deserves someone better as well.
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Wow, we are in a long distance relationship and have been for a LONG time, I feel like things are getting stale. I mean, is it really horrible of me want him to say Happy Valentines Day? I love him, and I'm not leaving him ever. As I said in my story I'm looking for ways to deal with it, and its definitely not an excuse. We have laugh together and such, but I feel like a bestfriend who has sex with him most of the time. He says he loves me, but he says he can't make love to me. I'm just confused and wish there was a way to cope with his unromantic views.
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Umm... do you think that since you are in a long distance relationship that maybe he could be cheating on you? Maybe his lack of romance is a way of emotional detachment, the reason he can't "make love" to you. I hope he is not cheating on you, but I just had to say what came to my mind when I read your story.
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lol No, he isn't cheating. He talks to me every waking hour of the day and most of the night. Also I've known him forever, he is a honest decent guy. But thanks for commenting!
Some people just lack the romance.
If he has explained this to you and you are both still doing well, regardless of distance, the best thing i can suggest is to lower your romantic expectations and use that energy on something more productive.