Is it normal that my boyfriend told me this today?

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My boyfriend of 8 months just told me that the first time we had sex, I gave him an infection, he was all chill and he just said that during a conversation we had about how we met and the first time we did it. I just feel like this changes everything, all this time, and by the way I have never ever had anything to do with infections except for appendicitis(not sexually transmitted).. I feel so embarassed, hurt, unclean, Awkward and all that.. I also feel like he had some kind of intent otherwise he wouldnt mention that.. Is this normal, do guys say this kinds of things? and how do you think I should react am so friggin lost and confused asf right now.

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  • jethro
    7 years ago | pl

    Tell him to go piss off and find someone else. If he got an infection and you didn't have one or get one later, he got it somewhere else. Remember, the best defense is a good offense. If he blames you, you will be too busy defending yourself to realize that you didn't do it to him.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago | pl

    He's playing with your mind for reasons of his own. His story is full of holes: for a start, why wait 8 months and if he didn't tell you about it back then so you could also be treated, WTF is he on about? "An infection" is very vague: which infection was it, how was it treated, would you have had symptoms too?

    YOU are not unclean: if you know you didn't have an infection and you believe he did, then he must have caught it from someone else and that's what I reckon he's covering up.

    Some STI's don't have symptoms or only minor ones in either men or women or both, so if I were you I'd be having a full range of tests to find out if you've caught something from him and don't know it.

    He could've said this as a retrospective alibi in case you develop symptoms of something you've caught from him.

    Whatever the explanation, he's not to be trusted in my opinion.

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    • cutegalsly
      7 years ago | pl

      You couldn't be more right.. Thanks for bringing up things I never thought of myself.

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    • 8=====D~~~~
      7 years ago | pl

      All your advice is always related to men being an "enemy". Always blaming men and assuming immediately the man is the problem.

      You have serious issues.

      It's women like you and the overall impression women like you have on impressionable young women that have led to the current state of very poor gender relations. You'll never give up your crusade for "equality". The idea is too ingrained in your foolish idealism for you to do that.

      You won't even accept responsibility for the damage you continuously cause.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago | pl

        Just for fun and having a few idle moments, I just re-read OP's post, my response and then yours to mine, and you know what? If the original post had been from a bloke describing identical behavior in a girlfriend, my response would've been EXACTLY the same.

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      • IMissMary
        7 years ago | pl

        Exactly, women have a hard time accepting responsibility.

        Fact is, SHE gave him an infection. If he was screwing other women he would have just gotten fixed and not said anything.

        This chick ought to go get checked so she can stop burning people. She probably have him the clap.

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        • cutegalsly
          7 years ago | pl

          Jeez do you even hear yourself.. Next time read the post, try to be keen.

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago | pl

    I just hope you didn't give him HIV too

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  • bigfatdick4
    7 years ago | pl

    Your boyfriend is a whore monger...fuck him!

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  • cutegalsly
    7 years ago | pl

    Thought so too..

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago | pl

    he is creating a smoke screen and placing blame on you.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago | pl

    Address his awkward statement, but more importantly always use protection.

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