Is it normal that my boyfriend thinks i am an ungrateful gold digger?
Hi all!
I just had a fairly extensive argument with my boyfriend and I have some concerns.
He thinks that I don’t appreciate him and all he does for me. He also claims I am a gold digger and a bum.
So, here’s the story. I work for my mother and her small business and to be honest I love it most of the time. But the money isn’t the best. My boyfriend hates that I make so little and he thinks I’m going nowhere in life. He says that it weighs on him the amount of money and time he puts into me. He just moved in with me a couple of months ago. Here’s the deal, I pay rent, Internet, water, electricity, Netflix, and trash. He thinks that because he buys misc things (curtains, ottoman etc.) that I couldn’t live without him. He says I’d be homeless. But I lived on my own just as happy for several months just fine. I don’t need the things he buys me but insists on doing so. He does help with other things like if I need vet visits or gas if I’m really struggling that month etc. he thinks he fuels up my car 90% of the time. The only time he puts gas in it is when we go all over the place on the weekends. I’d rather stay home and sleep so I’m fine with him paying for it.
Essentially he desperately wants me to quit working for my mom and get “a real job” as he says. And he claims it’s a deal breaker for me to have a better job with a sturdy income. Even though I pay the living expenses aside from groceries....
Is this just a guy thing because they’re egotistical? Or am I really being ungrateful and I need to do a better job showing him that I am grateful?