Well, I was trying to be nice, because I don't have much patience for people who treat me in a disrespectful manner regardless of whether or not any pain is present, it's no excuse for me.
I would probably just go outside taking my purse and other stuff, and smoke my cigarette. Then when he refuses to let me back in I'd just leave. I wouldn't call him anymore, nor would I return any calls to him. End of story. This guy's a manipulative little worm, and is using his pain to as an excuse. Not cool!
As far as I'm concerned he can cry, scream, yell and curse out the moon, but if he's going to bite the hand that's feeding him maybe he should feed himself?
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As someone who has had sciatica ...the pain can be so intense that you can barely breathe. When I have it really bad, I can't move, I dont want to breathe, I don't want to be touched, and the only thing that stops the pain in the short term is painkillers so strong, they knock me out. This can go on for weeks. Obviously, I can't say how bad your boyfriend has it, but it can be really bad.
Of course you want to be there for him and comfort and help him, and of course you feel hurt when he snaps at you. And of course you should tell him that how he's behaving hurts you. But if he's in extreme physical pain, it's not really the right time for that discussion.
No, I haven't had sciatica, but my grandmother had it and now it seems my father is getting it. I do already have arthritis in my back, and myofascial pain, but I don't take it out on other people especially if they're helping me. My maternal grandmother's pain was awful, but she never took it out on anyone. She was a little crazy though, because she was afraid to take the pain pills she was prescribed as she would say, "I'm not a pill popper". She pasted away in her early 90's about 6 years ago. She was really the sweetest person despite, because kinda moody. She probably should have been on psych meds too, but didn't want them. Ugh. She was stubborn though.
I do have sympathy for someone in pain, but I'm not gonna put up with verbal abuse from anyone.
Is it normal that my boyfriend should be distant while sick?
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Well, I was trying to be nice, because I don't have much patience for people who treat me in a disrespectful manner regardless of whether or not any pain is present, it's no excuse for me.
I would probably just go outside taking my purse and other stuff, and smoke my cigarette. Then when he refuses to let me back in I'd just leave. I wouldn't call him anymore, nor would I return any calls to him. End of story. This guy's a manipulative little worm, and is using his pain to as an excuse. Not cool!
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You have a point actually, that is exactly what I felt and still feel at my core. TBH
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Tell him!
As far as I'm concerned he can cry, scream, yell and curse out the moon, but if he's going to bite the hand that's feeding him maybe he should feed himself?
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Clearly, you've never had sciatica.
He's in pain. Doesn't make it ok to be rude, but when you're in extreme pain, you tend to be snappy and unpleasant.
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That is true also, but he's using it as an excuse kind of over the top....
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As someone who has had sciatica ...the pain can be so intense that you can barely breathe. When I have it really bad, I can't move, I dont want to breathe, I don't want to be touched, and the only thing that stops the pain in the short term is painkillers so strong, they knock me out. This can go on for weeks. Obviously, I can't say how bad your boyfriend has it, but it can be really bad.
Of course you want to be there for him and comfort and help him, and of course you feel hurt when he snaps at you. And of course you should tell him that how he's behaving hurts you. But if he's in extreme physical pain, it's not really the right time for that discussion.
No, I haven't had sciatica, but my grandmother had it and now it seems my father is getting it. I do already have arthritis in my back, and myofascial pain, but I don't take it out on other people especially if they're helping me. My maternal grandmother's pain was awful, but she never took it out on anyone. She was a little crazy though, because she was afraid to take the pain pills she was prescribed as she would say, "I'm not a pill popper". She pasted away in her early 90's about 6 years ago. She was really the sweetest person despite, because kinda moody. She probably should have been on psych meds too, but didn't want them. Ugh. She was stubborn though.
I do have sympathy for someone in pain, but I'm not gonna put up with verbal abuse from anyone.