Is it normal that my boyfriend says he won't marry me

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I have been dating my boyfriend for three years and we've had an excellent relationship. We are both very motivated people and will be moving to separate cities next year for work.

About six months ago we were talking about being long-distance and he said, "well, it's not like I'm going to MARRY you!" While we're both in our early twenties and I'm not ready for a long-term commitment yet, my friends all tell me his comment was out of line (and it was very hurtful to me). I was under the impression that a long term relationship like ours was assumed to head toward marriage, is that unreasonable? If it's not headed to marriage, should I throw in the towel and forget about going through with the pain of long-distance?

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  • chopsoy
    14 years ago

    All relationships in one of three ways:
    Rejection
    Heartbreak
    Death

    First case is from rejection
    Second case is from breakup
    Third case is from marriage

    So enjoy the relationship while it lasts.

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  • browndoll
    14 years ago

    Yea just leave him...obviously he doesnt see a future with you

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  • Handyman
    7 years ago

    Leave him, he is a user.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I would say forget about him. He does not care enough to stay and probobly see you as nothing but a fling. Some people will break up even after two-three years. You might be a committed person but he sound like a prick. Forget about him. He does not see a future with you and probobly never did. Dont spend anymore time on this idiot.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    He isn't ready to commit yet give him time and he'll soon come around perhaps mention this in the bedroom when u are making him happy ^^ (he might think that he doesn't want to lose u)

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  • 777emogirl77
    13 years ago

    i dont know my parents have been dating for 14 yeras and they arent married so dont feel bad

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  • BabyBeluga
    13 years ago

    Leave him.
    I've had a long distance thing and it sucked.

    If I were you i'd only stay with him if he was serious about your relationship and you both had hopes for a future together.

    You'll find someone new where ever you do move.
    Goodluck!
    <3

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  • 343Boy
    13 years ago

    People can be together for their whole lives without ever having to get married. Your boyfriend is probably just being practical, I'd say don't listen to your friends about that, neither you or your boyfriend seem ready for marriage.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Just stay with him and see what happens, maybe he'll change his mind. That's really rude of him though.

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  • LanaLana
    13 years ago

    Let what he said be your answer. Don't talk to him about it bc obviously he's not interested. You're young, you'll find someone else. Let him go!

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    The whole purpose of starting a relationship is to move forward with that someone. If he has no intention of that...well what are you doing?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Ask him about it

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  • Mechastar
    14 years ago

    Maybe he just enjoys the sex... Not many guys like to get married apparently... They make shirts that say "Game Over" underneath a picture of stick people (from the bathroom sign sorta) getting married... I'm a guy I wanna get married someday lol

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  • Duck_________
    14 years ago

    There's no reason to leave him. If things are working for you, why not leave them as they are? I've met people who have been together for decades without marrying, and are happy with themselves.

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  • screaminasian
    14 years ago

    ^^ that's a funny way to think about it

    but yeah that comment is RIDICULOUS to me lol

    and it sounds like you two need to talk about what you're both about, life-wise

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  • smileytea
    14 years ago

    Best option is just talk to him about what you both want, before you leave to work in separate cities. That way, you can be better informed then do what is in your best interests.

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