Is it normal That my boyfriend rejects me sexually

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  • He's probably frustrated because what his body is telling him goes against his beliefs, and he gets even more frustrated when he fails to maintain self-control. His body is telling him that he wants sex (because he gets an erection, it feels good to him when you touch him), but his conscious mind is trying to convince him that he doesn't (because it goes against his religious beliefs).

    He takes his frustration out on you by getting angry, which is wrong of him. Part of him likes being seduced by you - who doesn't like sexual attention from their partner? - but part of him wishes you wouldn't tempt him because he also wants to wait. Perhaps he feels disgusted that he can't control himself completely when you do tempt him, and he takes that out on you even more.

    You, on the other hand, are confused by the mixed signals from him. Half the time he loves the sexual attention he gets from you, and half the time he gets angry with you for being sexual. There's nothing wrong with giving sexual attention to someone you love. It's natural and healthy to desire that dimension to your relationship.

    What he wants deep down is for you not to tempt him so much. Of course, that is understandably very difficult for you because holding back from your partner never really feels natural. It's difficult for him as well, because what he wants doesn't make sense to his body.

    I think his behaviour is normal for someone in his position, but I see why it's difficult to understand. Try to be as understanding as you can, and hopefully he'll respond by understanding how difficult it is for you.

    I think it's great that you feel you're ready to get married. I'm the same age as you and I think it would be great I had someone like that. Make sure you don't rush into it just so you can start having sex, though.

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