I am with him on the whole - it won't change much track because I don't think it will and it's not about the 'paper' either. If he took me down to a registry and had my surname changed to his and verbally stated he would spend the rest of my life with me I would be happy. We want a family - he will share the same name as our children... but I won't. In his culture though they marry and the females keep their maiden names anyway so I suppose he doesn't really understand why that's important to me. His parents have actually only recently said they are splitting up because of his dads repeated unfaithfulness... And as for the spark fading... if it hasn't faded for the last 8 years and all we have been through together (which is more than a lot of people will have to at this age) I'm not sure signing a document of marriage will take it away...
Is it normal that my boyfriend of 8 years doesn't want to get engaged?
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I am with him on the whole - it won't change much track because I don't think it will and it's not about the 'paper' either. If he took me down to a registry and had my surname changed to his and verbally stated he would spend the rest of my life with me I would be happy. We want a family - he will share the same name as our children... but I won't. In his culture though they marry and the females keep their maiden names anyway so I suppose he doesn't really understand why that's important to me. His parents have actually only recently said they are splitting up because of his dads repeated unfaithfulness... And as for the spark fading... if it hasn't faded for the last 8 years and all we have been through together (which is more than a lot of people will have to at this age) I'm not sure signing a document of marriage will take it away...