I'm a woman and feel the same way ur bf does, I'm engaged for the 2 nd time and I had no idea he was going to ask me!! Although I love him I feel like marriage is just a bad decision! I just feel like 90% of people just don't last foreve so why go thru an expensive divorce!!'
With the expensive divorce part. Living in Australia - we have lived together under the same roof for so long I can take him for half of everything we have now pretty much like a divorce and would be expensive; so that's not really what worries him.
See that's where it gets me - "I just feel like 90% of people just don't last foreve so why go thru an expensive divorce!!"
It's like expecting the relationship/marriage to fall apart and/or end in the future... thinking that way wouldn't really give a relationship a chance thinking it was bound to end in the future. I know it's a totally different generation but my great grandparents were married for 77 years before one of them passed and my grandparents at the moment have hit 55 years of marriage and are still really 'lovey dovey'. My parents are separated and have been for 14 years - never divorced officially though and are still friends and we still all do family things together (I'm 25 and my youngest sibling is 17).
It just kinda feels like he doesn't want to make the ultimate commitment and has some reservations - if he's doubting something then why is he leading me astray.
Is it normal that my boyfriend of 8 years doesn't want to get engaged?
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I'm a woman and feel the same way ur bf does, I'm engaged for the 2 nd time and I had no idea he was going to ask me!! Although I love him I feel like marriage is just a bad decision! I just feel like 90% of people just don't last foreve so why go thru an expensive divorce!!'
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With the expensive divorce part. Living in Australia - we have lived together under the same roof for so long I can take him for half of everything we have now pretty much like a divorce and would be expensive; so that's not really what worries him.
See that's where it gets me - "I just feel like 90% of people just don't last foreve so why go thru an expensive divorce!!"
It's like expecting the relationship/marriage to fall apart and/or end in the future... thinking that way wouldn't really give a relationship a chance thinking it was bound to end in the future. I know it's a totally different generation but my great grandparents were married for 77 years before one of them passed and my grandparents at the moment have hit 55 years of marriage and are still really 'lovey dovey'. My parents are separated and have been for 14 years - never divorced officially though and are still friends and we still all do family things together (I'm 25 and my youngest sibling is 17).
It just kinda feels like he doesn't want to make the ultimate commitment and has some reservations - if he's doubting something then why is he leading me astray.