While I agree with most of what you were said and think it is overall good advice to OP.
I don't get the:
"That means you were unable to give any consent"
She wasn't unconscious just drunk. "kissing and dry-humping. I get really horny when I'm drunk." It sounds like she gave consent. Whether that consent is legally sound depends on where you are. Consent means to give agreement to do something, of course you can agree to do things if you are drunk.
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With you being a virgin he used alcohol to get you to do something you wouldn't have done while sober. That is morally wrong on his part. I would strongly think about ending a relationship if it happened to me. It is not ok.
It does depend on where she is, but it's never really morally okay to take advantage of a drunk person, especially considering that they'd never done anything like that before. Even if she was coming onto him beforehand, it doesn't mean he can then do whatever he wants with her. I realize she wasn't unconscious, but she wasn't in her full, right mind either.
I have no idea about his motives- it could just have been an honest mistake, but considering the fact he'd never tried to do anything like that with her before and instead chose the moment when she wasn't in full control as an opportunity to try leads me to be suspicious of his motives and whether or not her consent was of importance to him.
IIN that my boyfriend maybe took advantage of me when I was drunk?
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While I agree with most of what you were said and think it is overall good advice to OP.
I don't get the:
"That means you were unable to give any consent"
She wasn't unconscious just drunk. "kissing and dry-humping. I get really horny when I'm drunk." It sounds like she gave consent. Whether that consent is legally sound depends on where you are. Consent means to give agreement to do something, of course you can agree to do things if you are drunk.
OP:
With you being a virgin he used alcohol to get you to do something you wouldn't have done while sober. That is morally wrong on his part. I would strongly think about ending a relationship if it happened to me. It is not ok.
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It does depend on where she is, but it's never really morally okay to take advantage of a drunk person, especially considering that they'd never done anything like that before. Even if she was coming onto him beforehand, it doesn't mean he can then do whatever he wants with her. I realize she wasn't unconscious, but she wasn't in her full, right mind either.
I have no idea about his motives- it could just have been an honest mistake, but considering the fact he'd never tried to do anything like that with her before and instead chose the moment when she wasn't in full control as an opportunity to try leads me to be suspicious of his motives and whether or not her consent was of importance to him.
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You talk a lot of sense. I suppose I'll have to talk to him about it... That's going to be a difficult topic to broach. Any idea how to phrase it?
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Let's talk about rape, baby
Let's talk about you and me,
Let's talk about feeling my junk,
When I get drunk,
That's slea-zy,
Let's talk about rape,
Let's talk about rape.
Worked for me