Is it normal that my boyfriend likes porn so much?

I started out being okay with watching porn with my boyfriend. I was even open-minded enough to look at pictures of him and his ex engaged in intercourse and not flinch. I introduced to him one of his now-favorite sites for looking at people camming, even went as far as camming with him and posting erotic pics of us together. Soon our relationship became consumed by this porn fantasy world. Every day led to camming or looking at porn for hours and hours.

The camming became more and more extreme. I began to feel degraded because he was showing no respect for any of my boundaries. When he bit me in a sensitive area hard enough to cause tears, I turned the cam off and have never cammed with him again. It also came to the point where I got tired of looking at porn with him for hours and hours. We only interacted in this forum. I stopped watching it with him because I just began feeling disgusted by it all. It has left me confused since I didn't have a problem with porn before. I find myself wondering if I just don't cut it for him. Is it variety that he craves, and if so how could I ever expect him to last in a long-term relationship with just one person? I don't want to force him to be someone he's not and I suspect he will never give up his porn? I tried talking to him about it and how much of a probelm it has become for me, so now he is simply more active in hiding it from me. I read that enjoying porn is normal for guys and that girls should try participating with their partners, which I did. What now? Is this REALLY normal???

Is It Normal?
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  • I say it's normal, women often try to accept porn because it's considered so normal, but I had a bad run in with it myself, and now I honestly hate it. (I'm a female) I really think it's sad that women have to go through this. Your normal hunny, and the situation IS NOT. Why should people have ot accept this anyways? Cause it's just a tool? It's degrating :/ Anyways I've said to much, i'm bound to get haters. Just know that it's okay, alot of women feel this way

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  • Porn is alright and most guys do like it a lot, but the ones that become 'addicted' to it are not ones you want to spend the rest of your life with. They will always need and want more than you and you will feel cut down and worthless. Save yourself the pain.

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  • Porn is evil and can b addicting like a drug

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  • We love porn a lot but it sounds like he likes it too much.

    Might I suggest being sluttier?
    Men like porn because the girls are hot sluts that do whatever the guy asks.

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  • guys love porn

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  • Too much is too much. I have just started to have conversations with my boyfriend about looking at a lot of porn. We have some easy bondage and a great sex life but I feel really insecure when every time I open our laptop (usually after I've walked in the door and he's shutting the laptop), and there's a list of anal galleries in the back log. I am hoping that it doesn't get to a point like yours (sorry) because I would find that to be an insidious habit. I wonder if they can understand what a turn off this can be?

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    • Thank you for responding. Seeing what kinds of porn he looks at can be unsettling for me as well, but nowhere near as much as the amount looked at. I understand the fantasy aspect that is involved. Where I find the problem is when it detracts from the real world where I am beginning to feel like I am waiting on the sidelines for him to come around and show at least a similar amount of interest in me again. I hope you and your boyfriend come to an easier understanding. We are currently at a stand-still on the topic with no middle ground in sight.

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