Is it normal that my boyfriend is my security blanket?

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I can't help but feel a little more secure that somebody loves me, desires me, and is my best friend. I feel secure about our plans for the future and have since day one. If someone I know is going through a break up, I secretly thank my lucky stars that it's not me. When I imagine life without him, I know that I would be okay, but I would hate the fact that I didn't have a boyfriend to rely on. Is that unhealthy? This is my first long-term relationship, but it is serious and we plan to get married.

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  • tygeronherbed
    14 years ago

    I feel like that with my boyfriend too, I love him and depend on him so much sometimes I am afraid of who i would be, or what i would do, with out him.
    He's my best friend, and I rely on him to keep me sane, and i feel so lucky i have found such a pure, true, and strong person to share my life with, but what's important for me to remember is that, if for some reason he was gone, i would be ok because i am me, i am strong, i am good and i am capable of anything i set my mind to.
    just remember to keep everything in perspective - enjoy your relationship, dont take it for granted, but also dont forget that you don't need a man to be happy, no matter how wonderful he is, you are just as wonderful with or with out him.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Tyger - i think you are a very fine young women. Please do not take you-know-who seriously at all. You have such good values. OK.? OK.

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      • Jen118584
        14 years ago

        I agree. You're awesome Tyger!

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        • [Old Memory]
          14 years ago

          Thank goodness, and yes, you are awesome!

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          • [Old Memory]
            14 years ago

            You are both awesome.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    Someone pass me the box of tissues please.

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    Completely normal. I too am one of the lucky few who have gotten to expeirience this. I just LOVE having him, he is my rock, and loves me, and takes care of me and I do the same for him. It's love. :) I'm so happy for y'all who have been blessed with such wondeful partners. I wish this for everyone.

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  • Kai'Layah
    14 years ago

    I feel this is prefectly normal to an extent. It is great to have someone that you can depend on no matter what. I am lucky enough to say that i have an amazing boyfriend (who is also my bestfriend) to spend everyday with. Sometimes i wonder what my life would be like if he were to not be there for some reason, and i initially get depressed. Then, i think back the past and realize that i was fine even without him, and will be if he happens to leave. It is very important to be your own person even if you have a great relationship. It is nice to hear though that you feel so deeply for your other half!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    PSA - EVERYONE ON THIS WEBSITE: BE CAREFUL OF "BUDTHEWISE" - HE IS A FIRST CLASS CREEP, WOMAN ABUSER, RACIST AND IGNORAMUS ... AND PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO ANY OF HIS CRAPPY AND ABUSIVE ADVICE. PLEASE!!!

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    • blndgrl18
      13 years ago

      amen. i thought i was the only one that felt he was abusive when posting comments.

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  • CTFxC
    14 years ago

    Thank you all for the thoughtful comments! I had a talk with my boyfriend last night to see how he felt and it is similar to how I feel except he is less reliant on me. Not because he can't rely on me, but the opportunity rarely arises where he really needs me to do something for him in an emergency. (I've had my share of flat tires, broken printers, etc).

    We both feel secure about the fact that there is someone in this world who loves us, makes us happy, makes life beautiful, fun, and just awesome, and can make all the troubles in the world melt away with one look. *sigh* :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Oh gosh ... I try ...

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    • tygeronherbed
      14 years ago

      haha omg i love you guys!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    OK - I needed that. Its been a bit Cruddy lately :o)~

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    Oh, and poster, you are totally normal. I feel that way about my boyfriend. The difference for me is that I can't imagine my life without him. I can't even imagine wanting to continue to exist if he suddenly were no longer in this world. I don't even know if I could continue to function biologically without him. I feel like I would just literally drown in my own misery. We have a great relationship and I always know how lucky I am. It sounds cheesy but if anything were to ever happen to him, he would take my soul with him.

    Just be sure that you feel this way because of the person your boyfriend is and because of your feelings for him personally.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Wow that is love too!

      I can only add that it just gets much, much better: richer, sweeter, deeper and more appreciative as the years go by ... and they do, very nice to have ...

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      • Jen118584
        14 years ago

        I bet you too are an amazing significant other/husband! You are respectful, honest, and understanding. Increasingly rarer qualities these days, it seems. We can all count ourselves extremely lucky!

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        • 53739
          8 years ago

          :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    But that racist pig has to go!!! (sorry to the poster - it has nothing to do with your beautiful post).

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Wow - that is love. And how well you put it. You too Tyger. Really nice to read something so heart warming.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    well ive never had one, according to my age, but in your case it seems normal to me...

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