If it feels like the fetish is in control of your sex life and he can't "perform" without the "props" of you wearing them, then yes, something's wrong though it's unlikely that he will (or even can) change. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but if you feel like it's becoming a problem in your relationship, then you & he both may want to consider seeing a Psychologist. This would be for your benefit, to help you learn how he ticks, not to try to make him change. Sexual fetishes (and a high heel fetish certainly qualifies) are in fact quite common, though they manifest themselves differently in different people. The key is understanding. If you withold it, all you will do is drive him to cheat with someone more willing to indulge his fantasies than you and possibly risk having him come home with an STD. As you say, you knew about his fetish early-on in your relationship, so if it was OK then, why is it not OK now?
If I were female and in your situation and I really loved my guy, and all it took to keep him happy was for me to walk around in spike heels, I'd have a closet full of them. If he wanted me to step on things with them, I'd do that too. Good guys are scarce. Don't throw him away because he's a little twisted. Be thankful he doesn't knock you around or drink and chase women like other men. For a fun afternoon, take him shoe shopping and let *HIM* pick out something that he likes on you.
This is not a simple addiction like cigarettes that he can simply give up because you command him to do so. It's a mental paraphilia that he cannot control. It's simply part of his make-up. If you catch him looking at a pair of heels on some other gal, engage him in a conversation about them, i.e., "do you like those? - would you like me to have a pair like those?"
Is it normal that my boyfriend has a high heel shoe fetish?
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If it feels like the fetish is in control of your sex life and he can't "perform" without the "props" of you wearing them, then yes, something's wrong though it's unlikely that he will (or even can) change. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but if you feel like it's becoming a problem in your relationship, then you & he both may want to consider seeing a Psychologist. This would be for your benefit, to help you learn how he ticks, not to try to make him change. Sexual fetishes (and a high heel fetish certainly qualifies) are in fact quite common, though they manifest themselves differently in different people. The key is understanding. If you withold it, all you will do is drive him to cheat with someone more willing to indulge his fantasies than you and possibly risk having him come home with an STD. As you say, you knew about his fetish early-on in your relationship, so if it was OK then, why is it not OK now?
If I were female and in your situation and I really loved my guy, and all it took to keep him happy was for me to walk around in spike heels, I'd have a closet full of them. If he wanted me to step on things with them, I'd do that too. Good guys are scarce. Don't throw him away because he's a little twisted. Be thankful he doesn't knock you around or drink and chase women like other men. For a fun afternoon, take him shoe shopping and let *HIM* pick out something that he likes on you.
This is not a simple addiction like cigarettes that he can simply give up because you command him to do so. It's a mental paraphilia that he cannot control. It's simply part of his make-up. If you catch him looking at a pair of heels on some other gal, engage him in a conversation about them, i.e., "do you like those? - would you like me to have a pair like those?"