I disagree. I have had a female partner that I was in love with. I absolutely loved to go down on her but she didn't like giving blow jobs - in fact she never gave one to me in our time together.
It wasn't because she was selfish or lazy - she just wasn't into it. I accepted that about her and the rest of our sex life was great. Would you call her selfish and lazy too?
There's almost nothing worse in sexual intimacy than someone – male or female – participating in a sexual act out of a sense of obligation and duty. It's always obvious that that is what's happening, and it's a vibe killer. Not to mention a great way to instill resentment in a relationship.
I really appreciate your response. And I think that's the case. Regardless, I still haven't asked as I am not sure if it's something I want as of yet. Also, I don't mind myself making him happy as top priority when I'm in bed as I'm quite submissive only during sex, and he is dominant.
So doesn't it still ruin your mood when she denied you a blowjob despite the other acts?
As to your question, no it didn't kill the mood. We talked about it the first time it happened. She said she didn't like it.
I accepted that it was off limits for her and just left that out of our sexual repertoire. Yet I always loved to go down on her, because first I loved her, and second I loved giving her pleasure and I enjoyed licking her pussy. We both had a very strong sex drive together (often 2-3 times a day) and our sex life was great and satisfying.
He should have had the respect to tell you he's not into it (if that happens to be the case) if he keeps asking for blow jobs, he owes you the respect to tell you he's not into doing it to you!
IIN that my boyfriend always asks for a bj, but not eating me out
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You shouldn't have to ask... sounds like he's selfish
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I agree, he's either selfish or lazy or both
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I disagree. I have had a female partner that I was in love with. I absolutely loved to go down on her but she didn't like giving blow jobs - in fact she never gave one to me in our time together.
It wasn't because she was selfish or lazy - she just wasn't into it. I accepted that about her and the rest of our sex life was great. Would you call her selfish and lazy too?
There's almost nothing worse in sexual intimacy than someone – male or female – participating in a sexual act out of a sense of obligation and duty. It's always obvious that that is what's happening, and it's a vibe killer. Not to mention a great way to instill resentment in a relationship.
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I count it as selfish if he isn't into, hasn't bothered to tell her about it but keeps asking for a blow job!
I really appreciate your response. And I think that's the case. Regardless, I still haven't asked as I am not sure if it's something I want as of yet. Also, I don't mind myself making him happy as top priority when I'm in bed as I'm quite submissive only during sex, and he is dominant.
So doesn't it still ruin your mood when she denied you a blowjob despite the other acts?
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I think you should talk to him about it.
As to your question, no it didn't kill the mood. We talked about it the first time it happened. She said she didn't like it.
I accepted that it was off limits for her and just left that out of our sexual repertoire. Yet I always loved to go down on her, because first I loved her, and second I loved giving her pleasure and I enjoyed licking her pussy. We both had a very strong sex drive together (often 2-3 times a day) and our sex life was great and satisfying.
He should have had the respect to tell you he's not into it (if that happens to be the case) if he keeps asking for blow jobs, he owes you the respect to tell you he's not into doing it to you!