He never really tells me it's more like make me ur salve . Right then I get turned off . I don't mind holding him down or tieing him up but then I'm totally thrown off by stuff he says . And role playing I'm just horrible at it n I have no idea what to say . He just gets kinda sad . But I'm always trying to make sure I please him but I feel horrible when I say no I don't like role playing .
Well why should he always get what he wants? If you don't like role playing or the whole thing makes you feel bad and you just want to please him, but are turned off while doing it, then only one of you can enjoy it. Tell him you don't mind this (be specific) and say but l dont like that (be specific). Do things you can both enjoy, don't do it because he wants it. Communication is key in any and every relationship. Good luck, I hope you can work something out.
Its ok, if you don't like it tell him how you feel, I am sure he will understand, and if he is a good boy friend he will respect your feelings. I never do anything my wife doesn't want me to do in bed, and she is the same with me. I am a 35 year old man now and we have been married for over 10 years, and still love every moment of us together, and our times in bed is the most precious time in our life...
Is it normal that my boyfreind wants me to be controlling in bed ?
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He never really tells me it's more like make me ur salve . Right then I get turned off . I don't mind holding him down or tieing him up but then I'm totally thrown off by stuff he says . And role playing I'm just horrible at it n I have no idea what to say . He just gets kinda sad . But I'm always trying to make sure I please him but I feel horrible when I say no I don't like role playing .
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Well why should he always get what he wants? If you don't like role playing or the whole thing makes you feel bad and you just want to please him, but are turned off while doing it, then only one of you can enjoy it. Tell him you don't mind this (be specific) and say but l dont like that (be specific). Do things you can both enjoy, don't do it because he wants it. Communication is key in any and every relationship. Good luck, I hope you can work something out.
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Great response - you're spot on!
Its ok, if you don't like it tell him how you feel, I am sure he will understand, and if he is a good boy friend he will respect your feelings. I never do anything my wife doesn't want me to do in bed, and she is the same with me. I am a 35 year old man now and we have been married for over 10 years, and still love every moment of us together, and our times in bed is the most precious time in our life...
˙ɥʇıʍ ʞɹoʍ oʇ ɥɔnɯ noʎ ǝʌıƃ ʇ,usǝop ǝɥ ˙pǝʇɐʇıɹɹı ʇıq ɐ ǝq oslɐ plnoʍ ı ǝʌlɐs oʇuı pǝuɹnʇ ƃuıǝq ɟo ʎsɐʇuɐɟ sıɥ pıɐ oʇ ʇods ǝɥʇ uo dn ƃuıɥʇǝɯos ǝʞɐɯ puɐ ʎɐldǝloɹ oʇ noʎ sʇuɐʍ ʎpoqǝɯos ɟı ˙noʎ ǝɯɐlq ʇ,uop ı
Keep saying no! It's disrespectful of him to try & manipulate you ("gets kinda sad") into doing anything you're not comfortable with.
If he's not getting his needs met that's his problem to sort out, not yours to satisfy against your own wishes