She's not your friend. She puts you down, she's rude and selfish. Why stay around someone who makes you feel bad? You can't make her change, but you can certainly change your situation by avoiding her.
I know but its complicated because me and my best friend share a friend that were both close with so it would be awkward for that friend if me and my bestfriend fall out
You don't deserve that treatment. She is fake around others. I bet you're a great person that she's jealous of. Dismiss her insults and maybe dish them back at her.
Your friend's relationship with the person in question is not what you should worry about. Friends fall out all the time - just don't put the mutual friend in a tough spot, and there will be no problems.
Answer this question: do you enjoy spending time with this person, or is it emotionally draining?
Think about it. You know what you should really do. You don't have to abruptly say "I hate you go away!" but you can stop actively spending time with the person that makes you feel bad.
I know but what if that other friend chooses my best friend then I will have no friends and its weird because she's not always horrible sometimes we have fun and she's really nice I just wish she was like she was before
I'll give you an example. I used to be very close to a girl, call her Kit. We were inseparable since 6th grade. But Kit got a little odd in high school. She liked to influence my choices a lot, then later tell me I should abandon the idea. She kinda treated me like her "pet project" bc she loved fashion and girly stuff, but I didnt.
So once she introduced me to this guy and we became her project to hook us up. And of course, we started dating, but soon after she decided to start telling me hes worthless etc etc. But then she did something unacceptable - started telling my bf very personal things about my past relationships, that he had "big shoes to fill" in the bedroom, that sort of stuff.
It really upset me, because the details she gave him were things told in confidence, and because she was going out of her way to sabotage our relationship. So after all the past toying i decided i was done with her. I haven't spoken to her since. Now, we still share a circle of friends, but I never brought it up to them (its not their problem) so there was never a problem of "choosing sides."
I hope this story brings a little enlightenment. Don't put up with anyone like Kit - in the long run it'll just hurt you.
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She's not your friend. She puts you down, she's rude and selfish. Why stay around someone who makes you feel bad? You can't make her change, but you can certainly change your situation by avoiding her.
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I know but its complicated because me and my best friend share a friend that were both close with so it would be awkward for that friend if me and my bestfriend fall out
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You don't deserve that treatment. She is fake around others. I bet you're a great person that she's jealous of. Dismiss her insults and maybe dish them back at her.
Your friend's relationship with the person in question is not what you should worry about. Friends fall out all the time - just don't put the mutual friend in a tough spot, and there will be no problems.
Answer this question: do you enjoy spending time with this person, or is it emotionally draining?
Think about it. You know what you should really do. You don't have to abruptly say "I hate you go away!" but you can stop actively spending time with the person that makes you feel bad.
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I know but what if that other friend chooses my best friend then I will have no friends and its weird because she's not always horrible sometimes we have fun and she's really nice I just wish she was like she was before
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Better no friends than fake ones
Why does the other friend need to choose at all?
I'll give you an example. I used to be very close to a girl, call her Kit. We were inseparable since 6th grade. But Kit got a little odd in high school. She liked to influence my choices a lot, then later tell me I should abandon the idea. She kinda treated me like her "pet project" bc she loved fashion and girly stuff, but I didnt.
So once she introduced me to this guy and we became her project to hook us up. And of course, we started dating, but soon after she decided to start telling me hes worthless etc etc. But then she did something unacceptable - started telling my bf very personal things about my past relationships, that he had "big shoes to fill" in the bedroom, that sort of stuff.
It really upset me, because the details she gave him were things told in confidence, and because she was going out of her way to sabotage our relationship. So after all the past toying i decided i was done with her. I haven't spoken to her since. Now, we still share a circle of friends, but I never brought it up to them (its not their problem) so there was never a problem of "choosing sides."
I hope this story brings a little enlightenment. Don't put up with anyone like Kit - in the long run it'll just hurt you.