Well obviously legally its child abuse, so just know that to begin with.
What she should have done is contacted your (close by ?) parents and they would have attended to you.
The other concern is children tend to exaggerate things, and now that you are older you may still believe in this 'too long' cleaning process, which may in fact have been your pants ripped off and a branch stuck in you that she removed 'carefully'.
I don't want to down play child abuse, but it sounds innocent anyway, wrong, but innocent.
It appears I haven't been very clear about what happened, but my memory of the incident is quite accurate. She cleaned the wound and in asking if I could still feel things properly, she proceeded to 'masturbate' me, as in stimulating my clitoris with her fingers and the cotton swab until I reached orgasm.
OK, well that's a bit more explicit!
Plus reaching orgasm at such a young age is nearly unbelievable!
You may want to speak to a psychologist about this, because there could be issues that you think are normal now, from this episode that certainly aren't normal real life for others. ie Doing this yourself to others one day.
Hmm, I knew that young girls could actually enjoy this, but to have an orgasm at that age I wasn't sure.
Hmm, thinking about it, I suppose its possible even at younger ages, except the child's mind may not be in tune enough to reach climax.
You must have been a mature 11yo.
I suppose no details of this encounter? Actually that may not sound good to ask.
I mean, I learned that rubbing against a pillow felt really good at like, age 8 or 9. I'm not sure if what I did could count as full-blown "masturbation" but I did that a lot.
As for the first orgasm, that was pretty run-of-the-mill. It was with a shower-head.
I don't think 12 years old is all THAT early for a girl who has begun puberty to experience orgasm. (To quote an article I read in my human sexuality class, "The average age at first masturbation was 13.1 and the median was 12.6" in reference to females.)
I appreciate the advice on seeing a psychologist to discuss this with them, I think it could be very helpful. Honestly I'm a bit offended that it is suggested I might do this to someone else one day. I have a relatively good grasp of what is socially acceptable (and legal). I'm simply trying to come to terms with what I went through.
Yes well don't be offended by people (hopefully) helping you or even just providing an ear.
Why I mentioned about your understanding of right and wrong is because you yourself stated: "I don't think I would consider what she did "abuse" either"
Whereas 'Legally' she DID (according to your testimony)
STILL, sometimes people do grow up with 'unknown' psychological issues (to them) AND once these issues are found (if any) then you may be able to piece together other possible abnormalities in your teenage life, who knows? Have people ever questioned your actions to that level before?
Well I do appreciate the advice and time... just, I really wouldn't do anything like that.
The reason I said I don't consider it "abuse" is that... I dunno. I don't feel abused. I know LEGALLY it is, but I don't have any negative feelings about it, just sort of a curiosity about the whole thing.
I do have a strange past regarding sexual encounters but I don't think I have anything diagnosable (lest it be for adderall, they give that to any old person these days).
Should I be more upset about it? Sometimes I feel like I should be angry, or feel abused. I just don't. Is that weird? I even fantasize about it sometimes when masturbating. GAH! I don't know!
IIN that my babysitter was my first sexual encounter? (both female)
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Well obviously legally its child abuse, so just know that to begin with.
What she should have done is contacted your (close by ?) parents and they would have attended to you.
The other concern is children tend to exaggerate things, and now that you are older you may still believe in this 'too long' cleaning process, which may in fact have been your pants ripped off and a branch stuck in you that she removed 'carefully'.
I don't want to down play child abuse, but it sounds innocent anyway, wrong, but innocent.
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It appears I haven't been very clear about what happened, but my memory of the incident is quite accurate. She cleaned the wound and in asking if I could still feel things properly, she proceeded to 'masturbate' me, as in stimulating my clitoris with her fingers and the cotton swab until I reached orgasm.
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OK, well that's a bit more explicit!
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I had my first orgasm when I was 11! D:
I still have my diary from the time where I wrote about it. I put a smiley-face after the entry and a lot of exclamation points.
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11 you say?
Hmm, I knew that young girls could actually enjoy this, but to have an orgasm at that age I wasn't sure.
Hmm, thinking about it, I suppose its possible even at younger ages, except the child's mind may not be in tune enough to reach climax.
You must have been a mature 11yo.
I suppose no details of this encounter? Actually that may not sound good to ask.
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I mean, I learned that rubbing against a pillow felt really good at like, age 8 or 9. I'm not sure if what I did could count as full-blown "masturbation" but I did that a lot.
As for the first orgasm, that was pretty run-of-the-mill. It was with a shower-head.
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Yes I've seen young girls do that with pillows and sides of chairs.
Hmm, I never put 2 and 2 together. You learn something new everyday :)
I don't think 12 years old is all THAT early for a girl who has begun puberty to experience orgasm. (To quote an article I read in my human sexuality class, "The average age at first masturbation was 13.1 and the median was 12.6" in reference to females.)
I appreciate the advice on seeing a psychologist to discuss this with them, I think it could be very helpful. Honestly I'm a bit offended that it is suggested I might do this to someone else one day. I have a relatively good grasp of what is socially acceptable (and legal). I'm simply trying to come to terms with what I went through.
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Yes well don't be offended by people (hopefully) helping you or even just providing an ear.
Why I mentioned about your understanding of right and wrong is because you yourself stated: "I don't think I would consider what she did "abuse" either"
Whereas 'Legally' she DID (according to your testimony)
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Well I do appreciate the advice and time... just, I really wouldn't do anything like that.
The reason I said I don't consider it "abuse" is that... I dunno. I don't feel abused. I know LEGALLY it is, but I don't have any negative feelings about it, just sort of a curiosity about the whole thing.
I do have a strange past regarding sexual encounters but I don't think I have anything diagnosable (lest it be for adderall, they give that to any old person these days).
Should I be more upset about it? Sometimes I feel like I should be angry, or feel abused. I just don't. Is that weird? I even fantasize about it sometimes when masturbating. GAH! I don't know!
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Its gray.
And a little mind boggling.
Hmm, maybe that's your psychological condition? Lol