I was an ice queen when I was in high school but for some reason I still managed to end up with at least half a dozen "options" I wasn't interested in at all. Here's my take:
You two have been together for "a long time". She said "I love you" BUT also said that she doesn't "know you well enough yet". Can you love someone when you've got a deadline in mind for when exactly she'll know you well enough? Why is the deadline Christmas? Is it because then she can expect a pretty present and a guy to show her parents?
I doubt Pancake Boy's the only other guy she's ever acted on. He might be the only one you know of but there are probably a few more who rejected her (or met up with her without your knowledge).
If she's really into you, she'll likely want to make things exclusive ASAP (assuming she can pass it off as "within a sensible timeframe" - which is culturally-sensitive).
This is probably pretty hard to read and I'm sorry you've put up with this. You sound like a sweet guy to respond as you did when she apologised. I'm inclined to believe that most people would've ended things or closed the door in her face.
You should distance yourself from her. It's not a good idea to get straight into dating other girls since you don't really have the mindset for it at the moment, you've been relegated to second/third/fourth/nth option by the girl who "loves" you. Spend some more time working on yourself. Go to the gym, try a new sport, whatever. It'll make you feel better and more attractive.
TLDR; it's normal to feel this way but honestly she's keeping her options open for someone she finds more "promising". If you were her first choice, she wouldn't pull the "wait for Christmas" card. Distance yourself and focus on self-improvement before you start dating again.
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I was an ice queen when I was in high school but for some reason I still managed to end up with at least half a dozen "options" I wasn't interested in at all. Here's my take:
You two have been together for "a long time". She said "I love you" BUT also said that she doesn't "know you well enough yet". Can you love someone when you've got a deadline in mind for when exactly she'll know you well enough? Why is the deadline Christmas? Is it because then she can expect a pretty present and a guy to show her parents?
I doubt Pancake Boy's the only other guy she's ever acted on. He might be the only one you know of but there are probably a few more who rejected her (or met up with her without your knowledge).
If she's really into you, she'll likely want to make things exclusive ASAP (assuming she can pass it off as "within a sensible timeframe" - which is culturally-sensitive).
This is probably pretty hard to read and I'm sorry you've put up with this. You sound like a sweet guy to respond as you did when she apologised. I'm inclined to believe that most people would've ended things or closed the door in her face.
You should distance yourself from her. It's not a good idea to get straight into dating other girls since you don't really have the mindset for it at the moment, you've been relegated to second/third/fourth/nth option by the girl who "loves" you. Spend some more time working on yourself. Go to the gym, try a new sport, whatever. It'll make you feel better and more attractive.
TLDR; it's normal to feel this way but honestly she's keeping her options open for someone she finds more "promising". If you were her first choice, she wouldn't pull the "wait for Christmas" card. Distance yourself and focus on self-improvement before you start dating again.