Is it normal that mom makes me unhook her bra?

Hi, I'm a 17 y/o male. I live with my dysfunctional family. A few months ago mom got a new set of bra. Since then, I have to unhook them when she goes bathing or changing them before sleep. She gets by when I'm not around, but says it's pretty hard to take them off by herself. And as for why she doesn't go to dad, let's just say they hardly even talk. :-) But I find it pretty gross and uncomfortable. I guess I'm being the sick one here, feeling sexualized or such. I have BPD, so yeah, splitting and irrational ideas are something I live with. Thanks for reading! :-)

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  • rayb12

    Trust me, your BPD is in no way skewing your perception of this situation.

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  • bm410775

    BPD as in Bi-Polar Depression or Borderline Personality Disorder? I have both, and was just curious....

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  • RoseIsabella

    I'm so constipated right now! OMG! It's hellish.

    ... but enough about me, I think you should ease up on yourself right now. There is enough of a negative stigma about Borderline personality disorder without you questioning your gut reactions about things that make you uncomfortable. Another term for BPD is Emotional Intensity disorder. I don't think this is about splitting, not in the least.

    Maybe you could tell her that you're uncomfortable, or in your not sure about that then perhaps gently suggest that she ask your father to help her instead.

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    • McBean

      That reminds me, I could use some fiber myself. Think I'll mix up a few tablespoons. Tastes good with a pickle on the side, and a chewable probiotic pill for extra flavor. Having severe diverticulosis like I do is kind of like having a temperamental female friend. She is okay if you treat her right.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I dunno, I might have a touch of that. I know for sure that I have Irritable Bowel syndrome, and Myofascial pain. I did have to go to the Emergency room once when I was 36 for severe abdominal pain and diarrhea which they told me was colitis. I ended up being off from work for about six weeks!

        The pain was excruciating, and my domineering mother kinda fucked me up, because she started trying to force feed me when the doctor specifically said that I was supposed to stay on a liquid diet until the pain and inflammation was gone. So basically thanks to my mom I ended up vomiting, but I was too embarrassed to admit to my doctor that my mom was force feeding me so instead he took me off of the pain killers, because he thought they might be the cause of the vomiting. The excruciating pain was worse after that, and I had to use pot, which was okay, but not as good as hydrocodone for what I was experiencing. Also, I was annoyed, because my mom is one of those people who is against medicinal marijuana.

        That was a summer from Hell!

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        • McBean

          Gee, sorry. Diverticulosis is a permanent condition. But the treatment is similar. If I stick with "x" grams of total fiber per day, and keep my GI tract pH low, I don't even notice it. Otherwise, watch out.

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          • RoseIsabella

            You mean like low acid, right?

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  • sissycakes

    She will feel weird about this when she thinks about one day. I say stop it before both of you have severe reactions to this weirdness.

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  • DV8Guy60

    I think she is probably quite innocent and just doesn't realise how sensitive a 17yo can be, and how embarrassed he might feel.

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  • Tuba765

    She’s hoping you’ll make a move. Do it!!! Forbidden/taboo sex is AWESOME!! Niece, Aunt and cousin so far. I masturbated my mom until she came like crazy but then we stopped (I’d finish that ANYTIME she wanted.)

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  • DanielBlizzard

    Today u r opening her bra, tomorrow her panties and then after that her pussy with ur dick

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  • S12207

    Is your mom obese or like disabled in some way? It's really a simple thing to do otherwise...

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  • platov

    its ur mom...................go get gf..

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  • Annie25

    Damn ! Must feel so awkward. I see some people here taking this post the wrong way about you feeling sexually aroused and shit
    I know it must feel awkward and you cant even just casually mention it that its awkward to your mom.
    Maybe you could just avoid it somehow and wait for your mom to figure out thats its uncomfortable to ask a 17 year old male kid to unhook her bra. Try telling her indirectly and saying things like "what If i wasnt around to help ya for such small things how would you do it" .. or just jokingly mention "I wonder how other women do it" and something like that and hope she understands the hint.
    Or if its troubling you so much and and your mom does not take the cue just tell her that you are uncomfortable. It will get hella awkward but it would be worth the risk.
    Hope this helps :)

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  • Ren_1095

    Thanks you all :-)
    I didn't say I get sexually aroused by it; maybe I should have made a clearer post. My apolozies.
    Well, even outside of this situation, she (and also dad) treat me like a little kid; making decisions for me (and forcing them), being friggin' overprotective and blah blah blah (abusive, I know). Maybe they just haven't noticed me growing up or something. Maybe that's why she doesn't see anything wrong with it. But yeah, makes me uncomfortable.

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  • Nitis626

    Yeah I would say it’s definitely not normal for a 17-year-old boy to unhook her mom’s bra and did you say that you are aroused by this it appears that way from reading the last comment which is normal from what I have read that boys have attractions to their moms. Do you think that she knows it turns you on and she enjoys the attention because she doesn’t get it from your father can be harmless fun I guess it all depends on what kind of a motions are transpiring. And obviously this would all depend on her intentions are used to get turned on by my moms feet I’ve always had a foot fetish since I was young and there was times she would asked me to pick out a pair shoes for her and I swore she knew that I had a shoe and foot fetish and there was a part of me that always used to get turned on by It and always wondered if it was just a game she like to play

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  • Dustyair

    I would tell your mom you don't like doing that. It's not normal at all for a mother to have her son unsnap her bra.

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  • Ratmanparoled

    Seems like a harmless thing to do for your mom. I see the issue here as what's going through your troubled mind. Perhaps it causes you to get an erection and you feel really weird about that. Understandable. You need to confine in your mom that you are no longer comfortable with this. And leave it at that. Trust that she will fill in the blanks.

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