I am in much of a similar situation myself with my own dad. In fact, I almost could have written this story myself. Yours sounds a tad bit worse than mine though, but I know how you feel. I don't think you can or should feel obligated to do anything to try and change him. Chances are he probably won't anyway, no matter what you do. I know exactly what you mean by the fake happiness thing. My dad has this constant and monotonous optimism/enthusiasm about him. I know that it's not real. I think it is sort of a defense mechanism that he has developed because he's in denial about things, and has been for a long time. My dad is NOT truly happy, but he often acts like he is which bugs me to no end, because I know it's not true.
My advice to you is the same thing I plan on doing: just bide your time and move out when you get the chance. That way you can hopefully start your life anew, and maybe achieve some happiness in this often cruel world.
Is it normal that me and my dad dont talk?
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I am in much of a similar situation myself with my own dad. In fact, I almost could have written this story myself. Yours sounds a tad bit worse than mine though, but I know how you feel. I don't think you can or should feel obligated to do anything to try and change him. Chances are he probably won't anyway, no matter what you do. I know exactly what you mean by the fake happiness thing. My dad has this constant and monotonous optimism/enthusiasm about him. I know that it's not real. I think it is sort of a defense mechanism that he has developed because he's in denial about things, and has been for a long time. My dad is NOT truly happy, but he often acts like he is which bugs me to no end, because I know it's not true.
My advice to you is the same thing I plan on doing: just bide your time and move out when you get the chance. That way you can hopefully start your life anew, and maybe achieve some happiness in this often cruel world.