My dear, you are not alone I am in the exact same boat right now.
I should be following the advice I'm about to give you, but try not to let other people's lives affect yours.
Sometimes men need more time to think about these kinds of things than we do. But its hard I know as women, your biological clock is ticking and you see everyone else around you moving on with their lives...its really difficult.
But like my mother told me marriage isnt want we unmarried women think it is. It is hard work and can become boring and monotonous at times, even if you have a wonderful marriage. She told me to enjoy my dating life with my boyfriend and if its meant to be it will be and to stop worrying about things that I cant control and to focus on the here and now and to stop worrying about what has yet to pass. She was right to tell me all of this but its still really difficult for me.
I found out over the summer that my high school sweetheart married the girl he dumped me for! He broke up with me 11 years ago for this other girl and they have been together ever since and just tied the knot this past August. I was so sad when I heard, which is silly I know because I'm over him but it still bugged me like I wasnt good enough. Plus I was engaged for 5 years in my early 20's and that was a bust. I had to end the relationship because my ex went crazy! Now I have a great man and a good stable relationship yet I am still wanting for a ring!
Ugh! The pre engagement stage is brutal! But dont worry your time will come my dear as will mine. Feel free to send me a message if you need a kindred spirit to talk to. I know exactly how you feel.
Is it normal that it bothers me when other people get engaged/married?
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My dear, you are not alone I am in the exact same boat right now.
I should be following the advice I'm about to give you, but try not to let other people's lives affect yours.
Sometimes men need more time to think about these kinds of things than we do. But its hard I know as women, your biological clock is ticking and you see everyone else around you moving on with their lives...its really difficult.
But like my mother told me marriage isnt want we unmarried women think it is. It is hard work and can become boring and monotonous at times, even if you have a wonderful marriage. She told me to enjoy my dating life with my boyfriend and if its meant to be it will be and to stop worrying about things that I cant control and to focus on the here and now and to stop worrying about what has yet to pass. She was right to tell me all of this but its still really difficult for me.
I found out over the summer that my high school sweetheart married the girl he dumped me for! He broke up with me 11 years ago for this other girl and they have been together ever since and just tied the knot this past August. I was so sad when I heard, which is silly I know because I'm over him but it still bugged me like I wasnt good enough. Plus I was engaged for 5 years in my early 20's and that was a bust. I had to end the relationship because my ex went crazy! Now I have a great man and a good stable relationship yet I am still wanting for a ring!
Ugh! The pre engagement stage is brutal! But dont worry your time will come my dear as will mine. Feel free to send me a message if you need a kindred spirit to talk to. I know exactly how you feel.
Best of luck to you and your man doll!
Love,
Sailor Cosmos xox
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I tried to message you but couldn't because neither of us are gold users.
But I want to thank you for your thoughtful and compassionate reply.
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No problem, I really hope it helped you to feel better :)