You wrote in another comment that your husband comes up with excuses why you shouldn't go to college or get a job... you either need to have a serious talk with him or get out of this marriage. If you don't do anything, you may wake up one day twenty years from now and realize that nothing's changed. Your marriage may also take a turn for the worse if you stay. You'll be unhappy if you leave your life as it is and he'll be unhappy if you try to achieve your dreams. Somewhere, something's gotta give.
Please don't rely on other people to make things happen for you and please don't push your hopes and dreams aside. You'll only regret it later.
I have to take a DEEP breath and say "Oh My God. . . You are completely and utterly correct." You honestly have put things in a really plain perspective for me. I' ve been so miserable since I got married. My husband works hard and makes decent money, goes to church, and doesn't abuse me physically or verbally. But I'm simply not happy because I have aspirations that he refuses to acknowledge no matter how much I express to him the way I want and need to live. He is all work no play boring boring same old same old everyday and doesn't want anything to change. I have stuck around because he takes care of me and its easy to just cook and clean and he is very dependant on me to do his laundry and massage him after a hard day and cook dinner Every night and pack his lunches and make his coffee just right & drive him around everywhere since he had his license revoked for a DUI and no insurance. Without me he would probably die in a week unless he moves back in with his rich parents in their Mantion... Idk why I didn't see this before. All he has to do is work and I do everything else. No wonder I'm not happy.
I'm glad I was able to help you see it from another perspective. I just hope you make a plan and put it into action. I've seen my mother and her friends go through this. Don't end up like all those women in their 40s wishing they'd done something for themselves sooner.
Is it normal that im so dissapointed with my life?
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You wrote in another comment that your husband comes up with excuses why you shouldn't go to college or get a job... you either need to have a serious talk with him or get out of this marriage. If you don't do anything, you may wake up one day twenty years from now and realize that nothing's changed. Your marriage may also take a turn for the worse if you stay. You'll be unhappy if you leave your life as it is and he'll be unhappy if you try to achieve your dreams. Somewhere, something's gotta give.
Please don't rely on other people to make things happen for you and please don't push your hopes and dreams aside. You'll only regret it later.
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I have to take a DEEP breath and say "Oh My God. . . You are completely and utterly correct." You honestly have put things in a really plain perspective for me. I' ve been so miserable since I got married. My husband works hard and makes decent money, goes to church, and doesn't abuse me physically or verbally. But I'm simply not happy because I have aspirations that he refuses to acknowledge no matter how much I express to him the way I want and need to live. He is all work no play boring boring same old same old everyday and doesn't want anything to change. I have stuck around because he takes care of me and its easy to just cook and clean and he is very dependant on me to do his laundry and massage him after a hard day and cook dinner Every night and pack his lunches and make his coffee just right & drive him around everywhere since he had his license revoked for a DUI and no insurance. Without me he would probably die in a week unless he moves back in with his rich parents in their Mantion... Idk why I didn't see this before. All he has to do is work and I do everything else. No wonder I'm not happy.
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I'm glad I was able to help you see it from another perspective. I just hope you make a plan and put it into action. I've seen my mother and her friends go through this. Don't end up like all those women in their 40s wishing they'd done something for themselves sooner.
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My mom is in her 40's and miserable with my dad but can't leave because she invested her whole life in him..