Also good advice. Thanks. I do want to go to college get my bachelors degree and be an english teacher before I turn 30. Only thing stopping me is my husband. He has every excuse I'm the world to keep me from a career. I'm very happy socializing but im truely fulfilled by public speaking and helping others. (I'm a sunday school teacher actually). I may have given the wrong idea by saying I want to be able to stay out late and go to parties and travel. That its coming from the frequent situations where my friends both married and single invite me to retreats out of town and my hubby says no. or my friends have bday parties at a club and hubby says no. or my mom goes out of state to visit my sister and I can never go with her because my hubby needs me home to cook or he'll starve after 2 days.
It sounds like you do have a child after all -- the one you're married to.
He's a grown-ass man and can cook his own meals every once in a while! There's something very wrong with a spouse who wants to hold his or her partner back from realizing important career and personal goals.
Here's what you tell your man-baby of a husband when he pouts and tells you that you can't go to work, school or retreats with friends: "You don't understand. I'm not asking your permission; I'm informing you of my decision. It isn't whether you'll let me do things, but whether you think you dare to *stop* me from doing them."
You're allowing him to plead helplessness by assuming he'll starve if you go away for a little while. Toddlers can help themselves to cereal, and pre-teens can operate a microwave; he won't starve, and he isn't an infant. Don't change his diapers for him like that; stop enabling him to treat you as a maidservant.
Is it normal that im so dissapointed with my life?
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Also good advice. Thanks. I do want to go to college get my bachelors degree and be an english teacher before I turn 30. Only thing stopping me is my husband. He has every excuse I'm the world to keep me from a career. I'm very happy socializing but im truely fulfilled by public speaking and helping others. (I'm a sunday school teacher actually). I may have given the wrong idea by saying I want to be able to stay out late and go to parties and travel. That its coming from the frequent situations where my friends both married and single invite me to retreats out of town and my hubby says no. or my friends have bday parties at a club and hubby says no. or my mom goes out of state to visit my sister and I can never go with her because my hubby needs me home to cook or he'll starve after 2 days.
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It sounds like you do have a child after all -- the one you're married to.
He's a grown-ass man and can cook his own meals every once in a while! There's something very wrong with a spouse who wants to hold his or her partner back from realizing important career and personal goals.
Here's what you tell your man-baby of a husband when he pouts and tells you that you can't go to work, school or retreats with friends: "You don't understand. I'm not asking your permission; I'm informing you of my decision. It isn't whether you'll let me do things, but whether you think you dare to *stop* me from doing them."
You're allowing him to plead helplessness by assuming he'll starve if you go away for a little while. Toddlers can help themselves to cereal, and pre-teens can operate a microwave; he won't starve, and he isn't an infant. Don't change his diapers for him like that; stop enabling him to treat you as a maidservant.