Is it normal that im only attracted by men old enough to be my dad?

I always go out or have sex with men old enough to be my dad.

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Based on 460 votes (258 yes)
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  • chloebabe

    Nothing wrong with it. My husband is 23 years older than me and I couldn't be happier.

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  • Gelmurag

    Copied from another post of mine.

    But then why are girls attracted to older men, and older men attracted to younger girls? Generally speaking, a younger girl is more resilient physically than an older woman. From a biological perspective, this means that at the onset of puberty, she can start having children, and her chances of survival are increased because of her youth. The opposing side to that is why on earth a younger girl would prefer to mate with an older male. Mainly strength. An older male will have established hunting trails, and knowledge how to defend himself and his "family." A younger male will have a more difficult time protecting/bringing food home simply because he isn't as experienced. Obviously back in those days life spans were quite short. But we haven't really evolved out of that yet. It was quite common for 12 year old girls to mate with 25-30 year old males. More chances to get her pregnant, more ability to provide, more potential offspring.

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    • thecowboy911

      But how do u explain yound guys being attracted to older females ?

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      • jennydg

        I think it s because of the ''immorality'' of the act. One of my ex boyfriend, Jean-Sebastian, admitted me that he was masturbating imagining having sex with my mom. And, 2 years after i dumpted him (he was 21), he fuckes my mom,( she was 51)

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        • thecowboy911

          yeah maybe the immorality of the act helps making it more exciting but i think it's not enough as motivation.
          like..if those women are overweight or ugly no amount of immorality will make them sexy to me.i will put it this way : suppose their's 2 attractive women who look alot like each other face, body etc.. but one is in her 40s and the other in her 20s i'd find the older sexier and trust me i dunno why lol and no it has nothing to do with me thinking she's more experienced it's just this way

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    • aubreyskye

      Smart answer..and VERY true.

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  • kawaiigurl

    how do you do it?! how do you get their attention? i love men in their 40s

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals

      If we look at you in the eyes smile at us.

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  • Unrepentant

    I'm 45, and the last woman my wife (44) and I dated was 23, so no it's not weird.

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    • Rick_Bawls

      What do you mean? You and your wife both dated the same 23-year-old guy? Did he really give it to you?

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  • Paris2005

    Maybe because young guys watch so much porn, they think bang, bang, bang and its over. Cum in her mouth and you're done! Older men know better. The lady always cums first. You take you time, foreplay lasts and lasts. When she's finally soaking wet and really ready to fuck, then older men slide it in slowly while kissing her hard. This begins a long, slow, deep fuck with a lot of dirty talk. When she finally stiffens and you feel her orgasm, then the older man knows he can let go and pound her hard to shoot his load. They both cum and cum. Mmmm

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    • aubreyskye

      You have a good point! :)

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    • Why do you care how the woman feels as long as you get yours?

      And are you a "Snag-fag" by nature or did you get pussy whipped into it. The only people who respect women in bed are guys who don't get laid much.

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      • aubreyskye

        You need help. A SMART man will have a lot more fun and satisfying experience in bed if he pleases his woman too! Trust me. When you fulfill all of her needs, you will be rewarded back. With this mentality though, you sound like you are in the 10th grade. That's how little boys think about sex!

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        • "A SMART man will have a lot more fun and satisfying experience in bed if he pleases his woman too"

          If he cares how she feels that is, I do not. You can't be so stupid that you think everybody does and should feel the same way.

          I don't disagree with you, your way is good for you, but not for me. To make others feel good is good for self esteem, but for a narcissist like me it means nothing. If I make somebody happy it doesn't register as much for me emotionally, I'm aware of it but all I think is "woopty-fucking-doo". And in truth, the last thing a narcissist needs is a self esteem boost if you know what I mean. We already see ourselves as god, we can't get much higher.

          Your attitude is nobel, but nice guys will always finish last. And I am not about to join those saps, not while there is breath left in my body.

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          • Ghostclaws

            "a narcissist like me"

            At least you know your personality sucks

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          • jc25

            So, do you feel really, really good or happy for at least 3 hours a day and bad very little?

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  • aubreyskye

    Actually, it's VERY normal. I took an entire class on this and it has deep roots in our entire evolution as human beings. This is why you will often see much older men with younger woman (but not usually the other way around.) The reason is this: Whether or not we realize it or are conscious of it as women...we are always seeking men who can protect us, provide for us, etc. The reason we are attracted to older men, is because they usually are stronger, more financially secure, more established etc. In caveman days, we needed the protection and security that the younger men were unable to provide. In our modern world that now equates to power, money, social status etc. Men in turn are attracted to youth and beauty which also represents good fertility. I too have ALWAYS been attracted to older men. My husband is 11 years older than I am. When I was 26, I dated a man that was 56. A huge age difference...but it was one of my best relationships. He was mature, educated, grounded, financially secure etc. A big difference from the men my age who were still living in the basement of their parents house and still dreaming of being a rock star. As long as everyone is over 18 and it's consensual...no worries. YOU ARE NORMAL!

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    • Rick_Bawls

      One of the guy friends is actually into women 15-20 years older. I make fun of him for dating grizzled sea hags!

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  • EarthDragon607

    My wife 25 and I'm 50. She doesn't have daddy issues. She likes older guys because they treat her better & respect her as a woman plus they make sure she cums first. Guys her age don't treat her that way. Older guys will rock your world & still respect you in the morning & bring you breakfast in bed & spoil you endlessly

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    • kittykat9930

      Amen to that! :) Older men definitely tend to want to please the woman in bed than younger men. And they tend to give more respect and have more understanding for a woman. But that's just my opinion

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  • TheCanadianDude

    Wish I could find a younger girl that feels that way about my age :(( I still look good for 45! )) but trust me, she would have the pampering she never got from the younger dudes!! hehe

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  • kittykat9930

    I'm 18 and I always prefer a man in his late 30s all the way up to 50. Right now I'm even dating an older man and it's my best relationship yet! And Aubreyskye states perfectly valid reasons for it being normal to like men old enough to be your dad. That's the way I feel too. :)

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  • GinnyWeasley

    I study psychology and that is one of most normal things.

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  • maxtor51

    a lot of women likes older men. they like their maturity and down to earth type actions. they have been thru all that stupid stuff young kids go thru and are more settled and ready to have a wife and treat her as a wife.

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  • Paris2005

    Perhaps you enjoy the experience of an older man. Maybe you don't want some teenager using your body to learn about sex. Or maybe it's as simple as you wanting to cum.

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  • peterrabbyt2

    Young ladies like me because I listen to them and care about them.

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    • jennydg

      can we talk together?

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      • jennydg

        sure!!!!!!

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        • GoraIntoDesiGals

          Lol do you often answer your own questions after 4 months? O_o

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  • Why though? I've never understood why some women have this preference.

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    • shuggy-chan

      Daddy issues?

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      • I hope not. :(

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        • shuggy-chan

          call me papi

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          • Okay, Papi.

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  • Because women are insecure. They're afraid that young guys would cheat and go around. With older men that's not an issues since nobody wants them.

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    • aubreyskye

      Wow...so not true!!! There are a ton of VERY desirable men who are "older." Lets name a few (all of them are over 40...some MUCH older than that) Here ya go: Sean Connery, Tom Selleck, George Cloony, Harrison Ford, Robert Redford, Richard Gere, Ed Harris, Esai Morales,Johnny Depp, Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt (late 40's now!)Antonio Banderas, John Stamos, Eric Bana, Mel Gibson, Billy Zane, Brendan Fraser, Edward Norton, Denzel Washington, Liam Neeson, Bon Jovi etc. YEAH...I doubt any of them have difficulty with women not "wanting" them!! I personally think that some men get sexier as they get older. I was not attracted at all to Leonardo Dicaprio when he starred in Titanic. He looked like a kid to me. In just the 16 years since then, he has become super hot. Same goes for Richard Gere...he wasn't all that attractive to me in "An Officer and a Gentleman" but he sure looked pretty good in "Pretty Woman." All I know is that I want a "MAN"...not a little boy. It has NOTHING to do with me being insecure at all.

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  • Cellbiologyphiliac

    Well I'm 25 and I've been in a loving relationship with a 56 year old man for three years, and we even have a child together who is very healthy and happy.

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  • Pepperoni_Sticks

    I attracted to older men,some old enough to be my grandfather, so when I saw this I laughed.

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  • Aya101

    Completely normal. I get turned on by older men way easier than by men my age

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  • Maddiehouse

    I have felt that way since I was fourteen. I can't attract any older men though, I just don't know where to find them and how to tell them if I am attracted, it is kind of hard, especially when a lot of them are married unlike most men entering their 20's.

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  • Cupcake14

    I feel the same way... And yes,i have Daddy issues. I'll admit that. But you are completely normal. Trust me.

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  • WendelyLeo

    I just think that you MAY have an attraction because your dad may have not been in your life, and so your attracted to these older men because you want a fatherly figure. From personal experience.

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  • j-u-s-t-i-c-e

    I somewhat feel the same way except I think I'm generally only attracted to celebrities that are nearly twice my age. Not really sure how I feel about the average joe.

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  • AwkwardSwan

    Someone asked why...don't really know why I think it's comfort in security and having someone provide for me....to make all the decisions. I like being told what to do

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    • Nephew7

      A person your age could do that too, reasons sound like excuses on this post lol

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  • dirtybirdy

    That's pushin it a bit, however, I've got a bit of a thing for Daniel Day-Lewis as the Butcher. Don't judge me! He was twice my age when the movie came out.

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  • quentari

    sometimes it has something to do with daddy issues, sometimes girls just like older men.

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    • Rick_Bawls

      Some young girls are turned on by the sight of a gray-haired and wrinkled ball bag!

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Maybe you have a daddy complex and are unknowingly sexually attracted to your dad. No it is not normal to only be attracted to people your dads age. It also sounds award for your father. Like what if one day you come back and tell him you are dating one of his friends?

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    • aubreyskye

      "Who" decided what was "normal?" Lots of older men are attracted to younger women! It goes without saying that there are many women attracted to them too. While some women might have a "daddy complex" as you state..it's not always the case! Perhaps we are just attracted to maturity, intelligence, life experience, and security!

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        Like your dad? Sorry but that sounds like daddy issues. Not everyone with problems realize it. Why else would someone want to date someone that is their parents age? Can you explain your theory behind it? An alternative one that makes any sense. Sexuality is motivated by many things. So the real question is what the motive is.

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  • Nephew7

    Slut

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    • jennydg

      why u judge?

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