Is it normal that if i have a boyfriend i have to "go down on" him?

I think it's expected these days.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to, and if anyone tells you that you have to do something, dump them.

Wow is this even a real question?

You never have to do anything for anyone if you don't want to.

But if you care about your boyfriend and you want to make him happy and you want him to continue being your boyfriend then yes you should happily suck his dick regularly if that is what he wants.

I *never* date a girl that doesn't suck my dick regularly.

Why would I ?

It's one of the most amazing feelings a guy can have and it is essential for a healthy sex life and loving relationship if the guys wants it. Unless a guy has never had his dick sucked he's going to be needing it sucked regularly if he's going to be happy. If his gf doesn't suck him off regularly he's probably going to be getting a new gf soon if he's able to or he'll cheat and get his dick sucked by some other girl.

If you aren't sexually compatible with your mate and you're not meeting his needs it's probably time to move on because the longer he's with you he'll typically become frustrated and unhappy. He knows other girls love sucking dick and he'll find one unless he doesn't know how to get girls.

Honestly, I don't understand how you can care for a guy and his happiness and you don't want to suck him off?

To the girl who said something like you need to make him work for it. Dead wrong. Don't play power trip games making your guy jump through hoops to get some pussy or get his dick sucked. You'll immediately become his enemy instead of his love. If you try to control a guy like that he'll have no problem cheating on you because you're now " the enemy " and a "real bitch". Trying to use your pussy as a weapon is stupidly childish and wrong. Stop trying to manipulate him.

How would you feel if you were my girl and I told you I'm not going to ever fuck you or lick your pussy until you do the dishes, mow the lawn, and vacuum the house?
You'd become very resentful quickly and eventually most people would go out and cheat to get what they want. Cheating is wrong but that's what people do.

To let you know how 'normal' it is for girls to suck dick; I almost always get my dick sucked on a first date. Often I stop them before they get their mouths on it because I'm afraid of getting an STD. So I can tell you it's rare for a girl to not suck dick and the girls that don't suck lose many points, obviously.

Girls listen up :

Being a guy is hard. We have to compete for everything. Our jobs, our girls, traffic, health issues, we take shit from our stupid over paid under worked bosses, some idiot at the bar trying to fight us, and don't even get me started about the assholes at the DMV !, ok? lol.

Getting my dick sucked by my/a girl is really the only time in life I get to lean back, relax and FEEL GOOD. I don't have to do anything except feel good and enjoy the moment. I love that. It makes it amazing.

Think about it. Even when flirting and fucking a girl we're most often doing the work while she lays back and feels good. Or she's 'working hard' on her knees while we pump the fuck into her. Some girls do work but not nearly the same amount as a guy does.

Often times you girls expect us to 'man up' and take care of you. Be sweet, fix any problems you have, provide a nice home for you, fix your cars, take you shopping, listen to your drama at work/school, fix this, fix that, honey do this, honey do that,

GOD DAMN WOMAN!
With all the shit I'm constantly doing for you, you could at least suck my dick several times per week and be happy about it ;)

We gladly make that deal with you girls and the only thing we ask of you beyond the sucking and fucking is for you not to suck or fuck another guy. That's it. We're happy. Just keep sucking and fucking us and not touch another male and we're good honey. No worries. Work, don't work we don't really care.

With all of that being said I never force, demand or imply a girl to suck me off but somehow they really love doing it for me so I'm very lucky :)

Girls if you can't understand that look at it this way :

WOULD YOU EVER have a boyfriend and be committed to him long term if he never fucks you or licks your pussy and never gives you orgasms?

HELL NO.

You'd find a guy that meets your needs sexually and the guy that doesn't have sex with you would quickly turn into a 'friend'.

If you really don't like sucking your guy's dick and he wants you to then you're probably with the wrong guy because you're not a match sexually. Because of that it won't work out long term. People have needs and they do what it takes to get them met.

So girls, please don't try to ignore our dicks, it's not our fault our parts are on the outside ;)

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You're probably an appreciated girlfriend.

Don’t do anything you don’t want to. If he starts an argument or breaks up with you for this, than he obviously has other things on his mind, than a meaningful relationship.

Love should not be "conditional"!
You should only do what you enjoy doing with your partner, and if he can't accept that, then he obviously couldn't care less about your feelings and he is a selfish asshole.
"Going down" on your lover is a rather crude way to express making love orally and if you do it because it's demanded, not because you wish to, how is that love making?
Find someone who will respect you and love you as you are, not as they wish you to be.
All that said, there should be nothing "dirty" in lovemaking as long as both parties consent and perhaps if you looked at "going down" as another form of love making with your best friend/lover, it might not be so repugnant for you. Of course, he'd have to reciprocate, wouldn't he?
What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?

Don't do anything you don't want to. But make sure that if you do, he returns the favour!

I guess your boyfriend would not mind it..

I could never date a girl who didn't suck dick.. I've had a few who made it a chore and gave shit head... Such a turnoff

you not only have to suck his cock, but let him fill you're mouth with cum and swallow it all

Tell her if she's not going to suck your dick, you'll just pay a hooker to do it with her money.

Oral sex is perfectly natural and there is nothing wrong with it. Do not let anyone make you feel ashamed for enjoying sex.

Its expected. Its toatly the girls decision though.

It is a really nice thing to do but you should never force yourself to do something like that just because he expects you to.

I have learned to really enjoy giving head, and that makes everything so much easier. You just have to go at your own pace. Find someone that you WANT to give head to, because you like making them feel good. Imagine your mouth is your vagina maybe.

It helps to only do it when you're in the mood to, i.e. spontaneously instead of when he asks you to. It feels better for me when it's on my own terms

You don't have to do anything you don't want to. But I've been told never give a guy head first, especially since my virginity was something to protect, he should work for it and anything else I had to offer. (Odd since the advice came from guys my age and they didn't respect other females). But My bf went down on me so much and never asked for anything back that I eventually I got curious to what his tasted like. Lol and I used to be really adamant about things like that. It's nothing spectacular so I don't do it a lot....but it makes him happy and he's a great guy. But if the guy is pressuring you and you feel uncomfortable walk away. Someone else will respect your wishes.

I would never have a girlfriend do that to me. As much as I'm a guy and it sounds pretty nice, that would just be disrespectful.

Well, if you want him to return the favour, why not? And as long as your careful with your teeth and really get all sensual while you're doing it (you know, just really get into it), then damn, he'd really appreciate it. I know I do.

No, that'd mean you'd just be another sex toy, like every girl nowadays

You could always let him fuck you up the ass! You sound like the type that needs it.

I did it go down on him. 20 minutes my jaw hurt open so wide and at the end he pushed. His knob at the end of his sausage too far push open my back of mouth and he fucked me there. And juiced so much sperm I drink over and over swallow he shaking and screaming like crazy person. Holding my head untill all has emptied. My eyes watering wipes his semen sausage smoothing over all my face his smell and sperm and his balls sack onto my face in my mouth also sweatand his sperm leaking everywhere obvious on my blouse I have to go home everyone sees.

And he won't be my boyfriend. I do that for him! Usually weekend. But I have still don't have boyfriend.

I honestly can't believe I'm hearing this...
Darling, if the idea of a man-your boyfriend or no-placing the organ he urinates out of INSIDE YOUR MOUTH, fucking your mouth as if it was your vagina, makes you feel repulsed...
...DON'T DO IT. Simple.

Some of the guys writing replies on this post sound like true, disrespectful sickos. They sound as if they have no appreciation whatsoever what it must feel like for a woman to have to get down on her knees and put a mans penis inside her mouth. It can't feel very nice, can it?

I think it all comes down (no pun intended) to personal choice and comfort. Of course some men are going to say "If you don't try you'll never know", "Oh if a girl doesn't suck my dick she's my enemy and she's not worthy of me" (how incredibly and typically infantile). But if you, as a woman, don't feel comfortable with it, simply do not bow to the disrespectful and ultimately selfish predisposition of your boyfriend.

If he loved you he'd respect that you don't want to do it.
I don't think I'll ever understand why men need so many different sexual acts, why they NEED women to do these things.
Guys, the concept of women NOT giving you head makes you so upset? Why don't you do each others blow jobs?!

Yes and no. If he goes down on you then you ought to return the favor. If he doesn't lick your oyster then you don't have to swallow his snail.

Oral sex is usually expected by both partners but do it only if you like to perform this act.

I go down on my gf every night but she doesn't do the same anymore.

good luck in whatever you decide to do.

Honestly, it's up to you what you want to do. Don't do anything just because your boyfriend wants you to and you don't want to. But either way, you don't "have to", you do it by your own choice.