Is it normal that i worry about being narcissistic?

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I can't get myself to stop worrying that i am narrcicisstic and self absorbed. i feel like i am but i asked my friends and family member and they say I'm not. Its constantly popping into my head and thinking about it makes me feel depressed. A lot of times i don't want to talk because i think people will think i only care about my thoughts and life. I'm obsessed with and think a lot about how I'm viewed by other people and obsess over my appearance, trying to look nice but not standout. i think i look attractive but constantly ask people if i look fine to confirm it. is all this worrying normal or do i need to get help so i can just live my life? Any advice?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    A narcissist wouldn't care. So you have nothing to worry about :)

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago | pl

      Actually, a narcissist would care alot, they would want to try bury that they're a narcissist so that people don't know that they are or would try to convince themselves and others that they're not a narcissist.

      Although, this person doesn't seem like a narcissist, so you're right, they have nothing to worry about.

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  • Blaze242
    11 years ago | pl

    This website is funny. Are the whole lot of you narcisstics? Lol bloody hell.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    Thanks for the input, it helped.

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  • Ono
    11 years ago | pl

    If you'd have said neurotic then I'd say yes, but narcissist no.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    Accept yourself for who you are. Stop confirming how you look with others, if you believe that you look fine, that's the only approval that should matter. The fact that you are self aware of your narcissistic tendencies indicates to me that you won't be narcissistic because you're self-aware.

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  • Train.Wreck
    11 years ago | pl

    Well, first you have to accept yourself. Don't do things for other people's acceptance- do it for your own. If you're this worried about it, you're most likely not a narcissist. I know what you mean though. I hate feeling as if I'm self-absorbed. Try observing other people. Watch how many times they speak about themselves (surprisingly often), and you can start by setting your standards there.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    I can tell straight away that you're not a narcissist.
    There is a certain medical word to describe the way you are. I can't seem to remember the name of it though, I have a pretty good memory of what it was about though.

    It said that the people that have the dissorder (The one I can't remember the name of) is always worried about what people think of them, mostly in appearance. They want to look good and are very self consious about their looks. They need to make others confirm that they're good looking by asking others, not to look good for other people, but to look good for themselves.

    I can assure you that you're not narcissistic.

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    • LaurentinChevalier
      11 years ago | pl

      It's normal to worry, but it's not healthy.

      I've seen people on IIN who judge you harshly, but I can tell you that I'm not here to judge you.

      If you have Family and Friends, I find it hard to believe that you are a 100% completely self-absorbed person. Somewhere down the line you must have made some effort on your part to bond with them, so that's a good sign.

      My advice would be to seek help. You don't necessarily have to go to a Medical Specialist for that, you can try opening up to your Family Members and Friends. That burden that you have does not have to be yours alone to bare, and part of the reason why people have Family and Friends is to share your struggles with them. It takes a strong person to admit when they have a problem.

      You have deep emotional struggles and this is preventing you from being happy. You deserve happiness like anyone else. Don't seclude yourself if people are willing to make an effort to help you.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago | pl

        It's understandable why you may have gotten mixed up, but I didn't make this submission.

        I don't know if you said that because my last story got deleted and you had no other means to communicate with me or if you have mistaken me for the person that made this.

        I'm not sure if this given information changes your comment view towards me or not. If it doesn't, tell me, and I'll respond completely with your comment.

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        • LaurentinChevalier
          11 years ago | pl

          Oh, I see.

          I naturally assumed this was one of your stories because of the time frame between the one you posted the other day and seeing this one of a similiar title today. I'm apologize for getting it mixed up.

          It doesn't change my view towards you. I'm not here to judge you or anyone else.

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago | pl

            Easy mistake to make. No need to apologize.

            It's good that you have that trait not to judge people.

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