I think the problem is that you believe you're failing when you're really not. So what if there's no common ground? So what if the small talk is awkward? You're not failing until people really hate you, and awkward small talk and lack of common ground won't make anyone hate you. Just because you fail to conjure up a deep, lasting friendship quickly does not mean you have failed. I know you will hate hearing that because I had been told similar things when I was in the same position as you and I hated it. I also know you'll hate being told other people are in the same position as you, too. However, it's all true.
Stop thinking of a biological compulsion as your primary reason for wanting to socialise. There are plenty of other reasons to socialise: you can learn from them, receive help from them, receive confidence from them, you can have fun times with them, experience new places with another person. Friends have so many great functions. Why arbitrarily decide that a biological compulsion must be the most important reason?
IIN that I wish to no longer feel the desire to be around others?
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I think the problem is that you believe you're failing when you're really not. So what if there's no common ground? So what if the small talk is awkward? You're not failing until people really hate you, and awkward small talk and lack of common ground won't make anyone hate you. Just because you fail to conjure up a deep, lasting friendship quickly does not mean you have failed. I know you will hate hearing that because I had been told similar things when I was in the same position as you and I hated it. I also know you'll hate being told other people are in the same position as you, too. However, it's all true.
Stop thinking of a biological compulsion as your primary reason for wanting to socialise. There are plenty of other reasons to socialise: you can learn from them, receive help from them, receive confidence from them, you can have fun times with them, experience new places with another person. Friends have so many great functions. Why arbitrarily decide that a biological compulsion must be the most important reason?