You wrote "That's another thing that gets me. Why is it that 90%-97% of Adopters only want babies and toddlers when there's millions of older kids that need to be adopted too?"
That get's me too. When you have--or adopt--a baby you don't really know what you are getting. Some personality types simply don't get along. If people think they are safe having their own that is not necessarily true--it could have the same inborn basic personality of a relative of yours--or your partners--that you simply cannot get along with. Then both you and the child are stuck : ( Not a good situation for you or for the child. It doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you or wrong with the child. It is just that some people "click" and other's don't.
But with an older child you can choose one who's personality is compatible with yours. If I were to adopt I would want an older one for that reason.
Here is something for people who want to have their own child or who only want to adopt a baby or toddler to try that might change their minds--volunteer at an orphanage where there is a wide assortment of available children over toddler age. Do not let the children know you are thinking about or possibly considering the option of adoption because if you don't choose them they will be heartbroken and they have already suffered enough heartbreak and hurtful rejection for ten lifetimes. Just let them think you are volunteering and are there for all the kids as a group. Get to know the kids. Not only will you be doing a wonderful thing by being able to give those children much needed attention but chances are one or more of those older kids may very well "click" with you and totally capture your heart--and you theirs.
You have nothing to lose by doing so--and you might very well end up with the perfect child of your dreams and the difference you could make in the life of that child is immeasurable : )
Is it normal that I wish more people would adopt children?
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Dear Original Poster,
You wrote "That's another thing that gets me. Why is it that 90%-97% of Adopters only want babies and toddlers when there's millions of older kids that need to be adopted too?"
That get's me too. When you have--or adopt--a baby you don't really know what you are getting. Some personality types simply don't get along. If people think they are safe having their own that is not necessarily true--it could have the same inborn basic personality of a relative of yours--or your partners--that you simply cannot get along with. Then both you and the child are stuck : ( Not a good situation for you or for the child. It doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you or wrong with the child. It is just that some people "click" and other's don't.
But with an older child you can choose one who's personality is compatible with yours. If I were to adopt I would want an older one for that reason.
Here is something for people who want to have their own child or who only want to adopt a baby or toddler to try that might change their minds--volunteer at an orphanage where there is a wide assortment of available children over toddler age. Do not let the children know you are thinking about or possibly considering the option of adoption because if you don't choose them they will be heartbroken and they have already suffered enough heartbreak and hurtful rejection for ten lifetimes. Just let them think you are volunteering and are there for all the kids as a group. Get to know the kids. Not only will you be doing a wonderful thing by being able to give those children much needed attention but chances are one or more of those older kids may very well "click" with you and totally capture your heart--and you theirs.
You have nothing to lose by doing so--and you might very well end up with the perfect child of your dreams and the difference you could make in the life of that child is immeasurable : )