Is it normal that i want visitation with my son?

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I was a loser for a long time, I wasn't a good mother for my son, I knew it and when he was 1 1/2 I asked his grandmother to watch him while I went to rehab. While I was in rehab she was granted Guardianship. When I heard this I gave up for a couple of years. I thought that it was the same as custody. Fast forward to now, I have been sober for 3 years and remarried and have more children. I work for a group home counseling people on how to live a drug free life and am a A student in college. I moved to the town my son was in at the request of his grandmother to help out. I was exited! A year later she still hasn't let him spend the night. Now she says she is moving 14 hrs away and if I want to see him I can move too. I am not moving my family again. Is it normal for me to want to ask the court for visitation? I don't feel I should have to fallow her around the country to see my son especially since I have been paying child support and seeing him on a daily basis for a year.

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  • littlemsEMOtional
    13 years ago

    Hey good for you on being sober! and yes he's your son you have the right to see him!

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  • howaminotmyself
    13 years ago

    Talk to a lawyer. I'm not sure what the difference is between guardianship and custody but divorced parents aren't allowed to move the child very far away.

    But people don't move just for the hell of it. Staying may put undue hardship on your mother and son, financially. It's tough. How does your son feel about the situation? He should be a part of the conversation.

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  • mayadukkha
    13 years ago

    Bottom line he's ur kid y haven't u gotten custody back?

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  • harrypotters
    13 years ago

    Souns good i am not saying you should not have that chance to get to know, him now you have your life back on track. If she is stopping you from seeing him yeah take it to court good luck and hope it works out.

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  • Roseburg
    13 years ago

    This is his fathers mother~ his father is out of the picture. She is one of those kinds of people who move when they are uncomfortable. I think she sees we are getting close and decided to move. Seriously she moves like every 2 years. I agree my son should be part of the conversation. Unfortunatly I have a lot of people who won't let the past go no matter what I am doing now or for the past 3 years- almost 4 now. I've decided to talk to her about it and give her a chance to decide when he should visit- if she won't then I will go to the court and ask them to intervene. I may get custody back at that point. I don't want to yank him away fromt he person who has been his primary care giver. I do want a chance to connect with him and be in his life.

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  • harrypotters
    13 years ago

    Think about it from your grandmothers point of view. She is the one that has paid for support him and made him into the kid he is today, while you have been off with your other family. If anything major happens it will have a negative effect on your son, i know beacuse my mum left when i was 10 or so. Yeah it sucks that she is moving away but like i said she is the one who has raised him don't go chasing after this to much if you have other children and a husband.

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