Is it normal that i want to wait for marrige for sex

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I'm not religious its just I want to be married when I'm 24-around that age-and have a kid and loose my virginity at 27-28.Mainly because I can't support a kid at 18 (thats when everyone else wants kids)since I wont have a job or I will but I wont be getting enough pay.And I don't want to have sex with someone I don't know or just for the sake of it,I want to do it to have a kid!

No way am I going to have a kid with someone I might break up with in the next 2 days.It will ruin my and the kids life.Sure you can get a divorce but at least you're a bit more certain that you wont break up tomorrow.

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
    10 years ago | pl

    I wouldn't say that I want to wait until marriage, but I do want to wait until engagement, simply for the reason that I want it to be the right guy. Society makes it seem like sex is a perfectly normal thing to do on a casual date, even a one-night stand. But I just have serious problems with fucking any guy I find on the street, you know?

    The longer you have a relationship with someone, the more serious it will be when it doesn't work out. It's perfectly simple to go on a date or two and decide you're just not feeling it. But it takes a lot more to break off a relationship you've been building up for five years. I just don't want to lose my virginity to someone and then find out he's been cheating on me. Again, I don't feel the need to be married, but there must be some level of finality before I give up my virginity to someone.

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      Yes I have to agree with that and I might actually take your idea into consideration.Thanks!

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  • prasatko
    10 years ago | pl

    Well, I have always been completely different from you but that´s OK, I did not come here to argue with you or try to persuade you that my views and motivation is better. So, instead of writing about my point of view, I would like to ask a few questions. Because, as I said, my case is totally different from yours, so I just want to understand or to make sure if I understand or misunderstand what you have written.
    So I would be interested in these things:
    1.In one sentence in your original post you have written: "18...that´s when everyone else wants kids". Why do you think that everyone else wants kids at the age of 18? Personally, 99 % of people I know did not want to have kids at that age.
    2.Don´t you ever feel the desire to have sex for "sexual reasons" (pleasure, etc...) besides the reason you mention (having kids)?
    3.Let´s suppose you will marry and have sex which will result in having kid(s) in your future marriage. Would you like to stop having sex after you have kids? In other words, can you imagine having sex, let´s say with your legitimate husband, even if having kids would be out of question (e.g. at times when conception is very unlikely or when you will not want to have another child etc...)?

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      to answer your questions
      1. through my life every girl and guy I have known does.I guess I was exaggerating a bit there.
      2. No.To put it simply,no.I have a extremely low pain threshold and can't even take injections even though,I say I plan on having kids,I have no idea how I'm going to suppress childbirth I might have the operation to get it cut out instead of vaginal birth but I'll cross that bridge nearer the time.
      3. I will be able to contain myself due to my answer and question 2 I might have sex again but defiantly not when the kids are in the house I'd do it when they are in their late teens and out the house if I did.

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  • ASealedHeart
    10 years ago | pl

    Yes, it's normal my dear. I'm the same. I will save it for this special person who are willing to spend the rest of his life with me.

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      Thankyou for your kind feedback.I don't know why but your comment made me smile and feel happy!It's the kindness.Its infectious!

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  • SplitSecond
    10 years ago | pl

    I'm the exact same, I don't want to waste my virginity on some random!

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  • quentari
    10 years ago | pl

    I'm going to agree with the point that some people have made, are you going to wait 4 years to consummate the marriage?? Or are you just going to be very careful with sex until you hit 29?

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      4 years was just an estimate really because I can't say the exact date I would get married and so on and so forth.And I guess it could be a bit shorter then 4 years since I'm not one for change due to a mental disability(aspurgus syndrome) and it would take me time to get used to being married.

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      • quentari
        10 years ago | pl

        Okay, so somewhere between 24 and 27 you wanted to get married and have kids and, i assume, consummate the marriage on your honeymoon.

        It's okay to plan things out, just be flexible with dates :)

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  • americanhoney
    10 years ago | pl

    You sound incredibly immature - thank god you want to wait a while to reproduce.

    Ugh

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      Well its your opinion but say for example you have a typical girl my age(late teens)
      She wants I guy with good looks and lots of money,she doesn't care about his personality at all.She wants a huge mansion and wants to be a singer on x-factor.She loves makeup guys sex and want to have sex very early and if she doesn't have a boyfriend shell get one and then do it.
      And then me I want a guy with a good personality and smarts-money and looks to me are bonuses.I love video gaming,art and to be more smart.I would like to live in a decent house to be either a video-game developer,scientist or surgeon.
      Compare them and tell me what you think.

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  • KatieLiz
    10 years ago | pl

    Whatever floats your boat, but I do think 24 is a little early to get married. I'm 21 and it's not even on the radar.

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      Well thats only if I'd had the boyfriend for a long time and knew it would work out.If I didn't I would wait longer etc.

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  • PapzBSlim
    10 years ago | pl

    If you plan on getting married around twenty four, you shouldn't wait until around twenty seven to consummate the marriage. You might as well just wait until twenty seven to get married. All your reasons for not wanting to lose your virginity are valid, though you should wait even longer to get married.

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      You make a point.I don't like change to fast( most likely because of my Aspurgus Syndrome) and after marriage I would have to wait a while before making another big change.

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  • Naamah
    10 years ago | pl

    Yeah, every man dreams of having a wife who is willing to have sex with him only when she wants to have a baby and that he is eagerly waiting especially for the periods of your marriage when you don't want to have (more) kids. I am sure that he will love to have a wife like you who wants to lose virginity with him not only after the wedding but after 3 - 4 years of your marriage. What a wonderful dream!
    Sure, every man wants to have kids at 18 but he will give up this huge desire just to live without sex 10 years longer.

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      I can see this is being sarcastic.And I didn't say the MAN want to have kids and 18 (some might) I'm directing that more to the girls.

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    • prasatko
      10 years ago | pl

      As a man, I can only confirm that this is exactly what a man would dream of. It sounds too good to be true. But if it is really true, then one guy will be very lucky for the rest of his life. Sounds like sexual heaven, paradise of erotic pleasures exceeding the wildest expectations and hopes of mortal beings.

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      • GumDropGamer
        10 years ago | pl

        Well not everyman really likes sex, some don't.But I would go with someone if they just wanted sex which is similar to what you sarcastically explained to me there.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago | pl

    I don't want to tell you shouldn't wait, but it sounds like it's not for the best reasons. Well even that's not true. Generally when you save yourself, you save yourself for someone truly special because having sex does not guarentee having a child. Many kids and adults today used contraceptives; things like condoms or what is commonly known as "the pill" for girls.

    You're right to think that accidentally happens. I don't want you to be misinformed.

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    • GumDropGamer
      10 years ago | pl

      Thanks for the feedback. I know one thing thats defiantly true and thats because it varies from person to person, there are lots of different reasons you have to look at and then you have to link them up and try and find another person who wants the same or similar, which isn't easy.So to put it simply; it varies from person to person.

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