The difference is that you are denying him sex and making it sound like because of his scars he should put up with things other people wouldn't.
I do think that you sound asexual. If he were too that would be fine, but some things you describe sound one sided.
You talk about "destroying everything" if he leaves you and you talk down about him because of his scars.
I never thought less of my girlfriends because of that and was still attracted to her. The way you describe that you perceive your husband is very different from how I felt.
Scars are often a sign of bravery and strength and not something someone should be ashamed of or looked down on. You talk about it like it makes him less of a person and for that it saddens me that he would put up with that.
You're getting off topic and I'm not even quite sure what you mean by "subservient to his own desires at the expense of the kids"
My point I was making is that you talk down about your husband regarding his scars. You have made several statements that support this. What I thought was sad is that the person who should support him the most doesn't seem to have a high opinion of him.
The sex thing isn't even so much the big deal, but is a normal part of most relationships. you do sound asexual and that is ok but I do wonder how he feels about this.
I understand it's not my business but you did come here to ask so I am giving my opinion. If you don't like what people think then don't ask them.
IIN that I want to permanently deny sex to my husband?
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The difference is that you are denying him sex and making it sound like because of his scars he should put up with things other people wouldn't.
I do think that you sound asexual. If he were too that would be fine, but some things you describe sound one sided.
You talk about "destroying everything" if he leaves you and you talk down about him because of his scars.
I never thought less of my girlfriends because of that and was still attracted to her. The way you describe that you perceive your husband is very different from how I felt.
Scars are often a sign of bravery and strength and not something someone should be ashamed of or looked down on. You talk about it like it makes him less of a person and for that it saddens me that he would put up with that.
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You are saddened because you put your personal pride above others needs.
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That doesn't even make any sense. This has nothing to do with me.
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So you think he should be subservient to his own desires at the expense of the kids. You have a selfish attitude.
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You're getting off topic and I'm not even quite sure what you mean by "subservient to his own desires at the expense of the kids"
My point I was making is that you talk down about your husband regarding his scars. You have made several statements that support this. What I thought was sad is that the person who should support him the most doesn't seem to have a high opinion of him.
The sex thing isn't even so much the big deal, but is a normal part of most relationships. you do sound asexual and that is ok but I do wonder how he feels about this.
I understand it's not my business but you did come here to ask so I am giving my opinion. If you don't like what people think then don't ask them.
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His scars don't bother me. But, I am glad that other women see him as damaged goods. This societal perception makes our relationship possible.