My happiness is all I'm concerned with. He will never find a better woman because he has severe facial scars. Part of the reason I liked his scars is that most girls won't mess with "damaged goods". Because of this, I don't have to worry about affairs.
We can live together as brother and sister if I decide it is more virtuous. BTW, I am not miserable.
You exploited someones insecurities just to feed your own ego. That makes you a piece of shit. You married him because you thought no one is gonna take him away from you due to his scars. That proves you're even more insecure than him. I would want to see your facial expression when this guy, disfigured and hopeless as you perceive him to be, dumps you like a hot potato, leaving you butthurt and confused.
It won't happen. As long as I take good care of our children, and take good care of his money, he knows that I'm the best deal he can get. I encourage him to be a good parent, and make sure our two sons have a strong attachment to him.
He is not insecure, and I don't have much of an ego. I wanted a family - now I've got it. I am taking good care of everyone collectively.
Highly unlikely. If he did I would destroy everything. All our investments would go to lawyers, and he would never see our kids again. He knows this because I have told him it is what he can expect if he ever did try to leave.
I also said that I would expect him to do the same to me if I ever tried to divorce him.
I'm wondering why you are happy in this relationship? Are you asexual but want a marriage without sex?
You are obviously liking your husband for the wrong reason and while you say you feel used it sounds like you are using him. I cannot tell exactly what your motives are but you make it sound like you want someone who supports you but you are asexual and feel like most guys wouldn't put up with that.
His scars shouldn't matter and I hope he eventually realizes that. You should be supporting him instead of using that against him. That's a horrible thing to do. I had a girlfriend I was with for 4 years who also had facial scars and I did anything I could to make her feel better about it. It seemed half the time we went anywhere somebody would harass her about it which didn't help my already negative view of people. I did all I could to support her. She eventually broke up with me because I am not so easy to live with but we are still great friends.
If you cannot be supportive of him you need to let him find somebody who is.
Your support for your scarred girlfriend was similar to my support for my husband. I encourage him to be a good father and show him affection in many non-sexual ways. Why is everyone so obsessed with sex?
The difference is that you are denying him sex and making it sound like because of his scars he should put up with things other people wouldn't.
I do think that you sound asexual. If he were too that would be fine, but some things you describe sound one sided.
You talk about "destroying everything" if he leaves you and you talk down about him because of his scars.
I never thought less of my girlfriends because of that and was still attracted to her. The way you describe that you perceive your husband is very different from how I felt.
Scars are often a sign of bravery and strength and not something someone should be ashamed of or looked down on. You talk about it like it makes him less of a person and for that it saddens me that he would put up with that.
Wow! Can u hear urself? Geez! Bless the lord for he has kept women like u away from me! 'Damaged goods' is a very good way to describe him as he's paired with other damaged goods
I do not think I am damaged. But whatever. Look at it this way. Two [damaged] but committed people are raising children that are very healthy and normal. The world will be a better place because of our joint cooperative efforts.
Lol you think you're raising ur kids well by lying to them? You think when they grow up a little they'll realise how u actually feel about their father! Kids know! They're much smarter than we think. Do urself a favour actually try to see the goodness in him. He's ur husband, you'll b together for life! Might as well love his imperfections cuz they are unique. Just saying
IIN that I want to permanently deny sex to my husband?
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My happiness is all I'm concerned with. He will never find a better woman because he has severe facial scars. Part of the reason I liked his scars is that most girls won't mess with "damaged goods". Because of this, I don't have to worry about affairs.
We can live together as brother and sister if I decide it is more virtuous. BTW, I am not miserable.
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You exploited someones insecurities just to feed your own ego. That makes you a piece of shit. You married him because you thought no one is gonna take him away from you due to his scars. That proves you're even more insecure than him. I would want to see your facial expression when this guy, disfigured and hopeless as you perceive him to be, dumps you like a hot potato, leaving you butthurt and confused.
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It won't happen. As long as I take good care of our children, and take good care of his money, he knows that I'm the best deal he can get. I encourage him to be a good parent, and make sure our two sons have a strong attachment to him.
He is not insecure, and I don't have much of an ego. I wanted a family - now I've got it. I am taking good care of everyone collectively.
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Highly unlikely. If he did I would destroy everything. All our investments would go to lawyers, and he would never see our kids again. He knows this because I have told him it is what he can expect if he ever did try to leave.
I also said that I would expect him to do the same to me if I ever tried to divorce him.
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Well, I am sorry you think that. I would say I am giving a family to a man who would otherwise be unable to have one.
I'm wondering why you are happy in this relationship? Are you asexual but want a marriage without sex?
You are obviously liking your husband for the wrong reason and while you say you feel used it sounds like you are using him. I cannot tell exactly what your motives are but you make it sound like you want someone who supports you but you are asexual and feel like most guys wouldn't put up with that.
His scars shouldn't matter and I hope he eventually realizes that. You should be supporting him instead of using that against him. That's a horrible thing to do. I had a girlfriend I was with for 4 years who also had facial scars and I did anything I could to make her feel better about it. It seemed half the time we went anywhere somebody would harass her about it which didn't help my already negative view of people. I did all I could to support her. She eventually broke up with me because I am not so easy to live with but we are still great friends.
If you cannot be supportive of him you need to let him find somebody who is.
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Your support for your scarred girlfriend was similar to my support for my husband. I encourage him to be a good father and show him affection in many non-sexual ways. Why is everyone so obsessed with sex?
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The difference is that you are denying him sex and making it sound like because of his scars he should put up with things other people wouldn't.
I do think that you sound asexual. If he were too that would be fine, but some things you describe sound one sided.
You talk about "destroying everything" if he leaves you and you talk down about him because of his scars.
I never thought less of my girlfriends because of that and was still attracted to her. The way you describe that you perceive your husband is very different from how I felt.
Scars are often a sign of bravery and strength and not something someone should be ashamed of or looked down on. You talk about it like it makes him less of a person and for that it saddens me that he would put up with that.
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That doesn't even make any sense. This has nothing to do with me.
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So you think he should be subservient to his own desires at the expense of the kids. You have a selfish attitude.
Wow! Can u hear urself? Geez! Bless the lord for he has kept women like u away from me! 'Damaged goods' is a very good way to describe him as he's paired with other damaged goods
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I do not think I am damaged. But whatever. Look at it this way. Two [damaged] but committed people are raising children that are very healthy and normal. The world will be a better place because of our joint cooperative efforts.
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Lol you think you're raising ur kids well by lying to them? You think when they grow up a little they'll realise how u actually feel about their father! Kids know! They're much smarter than we think. Do urself a favour actually try to see the goodness in him. He's ur husband, you'll b together for life! Might as well love his imperfections cuz they are unique. Just saying
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I do. But sex with him or anyone just doesn't work.